Purpose of First Date
The ultimate goal of dating is to find your soul mate; however, we constantly find ourselves involved in other relationships or friendship along the way. After the initial meeting, we may perceive our date as a sexual partner, friend, or lover.
A Successful First Date
A successful first date highly relies on the similarity of the expectations of both parties. When the expectations match, both are relaxed and have fun, therefore, more dates can be followed.
If both the guy and the girl are looking for a romantic relationship then both feel comfortable when someone makes a move. The same applies to a sexual relationship.
If both the guy and the girl are looking for a friendship then both feel comfortable without worrying that the other person might make a move.
Nevertheless, when the expectations differ, one person will feel uneasy and this first date will be awkward.
What Women Want
1. A polite gentleman, a real prince charming;
2. To establish friendships and have fun on a first date;
3. More relationship-oriented than sexual-oriented;
4. Sexually more reserved.
What Men Want
1. Higher expectation for sexual goals;
2. More likely to misinterpret women’s stimuli as a sign of sexual intent;
E.g. Men might find tickling sexual while women might just perceive it as joking around.
You might want to check out the book “I Know What You’re Thinking” written by the body language expert Lillian Glass, to learn more about what your date is thinking.
3. Men may regard some sexual advances as appropriate while women may not;
4. Men may interpret a style of dress or a woman accepting a drink at his place as the sexual readiness.
To understand men or women better, avoid misinterpretation, and succeed on your first date, you might need to watch “What women want” or “He’s just not that into you”.
The shortcut to conclude your fist date: a goodbye hug is usually a sign of friendship while a goodnight kiss makes a world of difference.
