For the last month I have been heavily flirted with by a Junior at my high School. Our relationship started because we both happen to be in the same clubs, and have common interests. Although, he often flirts with me and calls me beautiful, he mentions right afterward that he has a girlfriend who goes to a different school. I know it’s not right but I have developed feelings for him, and I’m worried that he may be a) worried about the fact that I’m two years younger than him, b) Stringing me along, c) putting me in the friends category. I don’t know what to do in order to make him understand that I’m interested in him. Yet at the same time I don’t want to ruin the relationship that we have now. What’s a girl to do?

-Winnie

I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years now & it was difficult for us to get together with his ex in the way she would say things about me to him, she would say things to me about him when we were out, she even came up to him when I was out with him & asked him if he wanted to come back to her …. she has never really bothered me by doing all this though it’s only recently that I’ve started feeling very insecure when I found some text messages from her on his phone, when I asked him if he’d been in touch with her hes swore to me he hadn’t … which was obviously a lie as the text messages clearly stated things like thanks for your voicemail it was so good to hear your voice blah blah blah … after I confronted him about it he said that his mum had sent them & that she still kept in touch with her (I obviously had my doubts) but I wanted to believe him so bad that I let it slide & just the other day the temptation got the better of me again and I checked his phone hoping & praying there would be nothing there but there was a text from her … now I don’t know what to do I can’t handle them being friends after all the trouble she’s caused …..

- Kim

Im 48 and my girlfriend is 20. We love each other very much in spite of our large age difference. She has kept the relationship secret from her parents for almost a year because she is afraid they will be very angry. Her grandmother died a couple weeks ago and she is really reluctant to tell them. Any advice?

- Socal

Firstly a little back ground on my GF. She used to be a player and have flirted with other men. Now she has pledged her faithfulness to me but still has many male friends. She talks about sex very casually to them and she seems to share many things with them. She claims that she mixes well with men and enjoys when those men says sweet things to her to please her. She says in this era this is so common and that that is not being unfaithful and it is normal.

When we started the relationship, I made a request that she discontinue from contacting her ex-lovers and she agreed as due to her past, I don’t feel very comfortable with it.. When I asked her if she had deleted contacts of these other mens, she said yes. I later found out that she still had these contacts on her facebook. When I questioned her, she said it was just to look at their pics. Recently I found out that she still sent Emails to her ex-lovers although contents I am not sure of and I would assume she still talks to them.

I tried many times to explain to her how I felt but still it did not work. Everytime she does these things I will feel very sad.

Is there a problem with me? Is there hope in this relationship?
Kind Regards
- Kure

I am 40 years old single never married woman strictly spiritual , presently in relationship with a 38 years old never married guy who is atheist. this is my first relationship. We met one year back. everything is pleasant, we love each other but i am not sure whether he wants to marry me. he calls me regularly, gifts me, cares for me, takes me home, introduces to his family so on so. He shares all his fears , thoughts, dreams n plans with me. earlier in the begininng he told me that he never wished to marry ever, n that he had lot of relationships which r broken . i need to find out how serious is he n does he think me of marriage material. does he really loves me? we r yet to have physical relationship fully. he does expresses at times of going out n spending few days together. i desire to marry him before i get really serious.

- A.B.