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How do I choose between the people I have feelings for? (Okay, I’m bisexual.) I’m dating someone that I really love. There is a long distance between us and we rarely get to talk because her parents are against her dating girls. We’ve been through a lot and I’ve had the next few years for us planned out perfectly. I can’t really picture my life without her. But, recently I’ve been talking to this guy online. He’s really sweet and he likes me. I kinda like him too, but he knows that I have someone. It’s hard for me because I know I’m leading him on since I’m taken and he’s had a bad past with girls. It’s hard choosing between the two because he’s more entertaining but lives further away, and she’s close but still far and I love being around her, we have a lot in common, and we’ve been through a lot. I don’t want to give her up because I know I’ll be throwing away a good relationship, friendship, and everything we’ve put into it, but at the same time I don’t want to string him along. I’m afraid that if I tell him that things need to lighten up between him, he’ll deny my request for a simple friendship and I don’t want to lose or hurt him. What should I do?
- Katheryn
Do you believe that the true friendship exists between a man and a woman?
When I talk about the friendship between a man and a woman I’m not talking about the acquaintanceship with no emotional ties on a saying hello basis (e.g. hundreds of “friends” on your Face book), nor am I talking about the friendship with the spouse of a best friend, or the working relationship with a co-worker … I’m talking about the friendship between a man and a woman as strong as the one between heterosexual same-sex friends.
Truth: * Men Benefit More from Cross-Sex Friendship
Women spend the majority of their time together discussing their thoughts and feelings, while males rarely share feelings or personal reflections.
Therefore, men enjoy talking and relating to women—something they can’t do with their buddies.
Meanwhile, same-sex friendships bring women higher quality and enjoyment. Because women expect more emotional rewards from friendship than men do.
Women have higher risk of emotional attachment than men do in a cross-sex friendship, otherwise women would rather choose a same-sex friendship.
Men can be attracted to someone and be friend at the same time because men don’t get emotionally involved in the same way as women do. Men can stay friends without acting on their fantasies. However, does NOT acting on your fantasy make you a real friend?
Truth: * Attraction
If a man and a woman have dated, and broke up, then and only then can it be possible for them to remain “just friends.” In that, they eventually broke up after attempts to work out the relationship and failed, and they have known each other well, have built trust and ties, and again they have lost attraction to each other, and therefore they are more likely to become true friends.
If a man and a woman have not dated at all and are “just friends,” they will share stories and build trust. They will soon figure out how much they understand and appreciate each other and will most likely end up dating (it can take years)
There are a lot of examples when a man and a woman were friends for a long time and got married. There are also a lot of examples when a friendship between a man and a woman was ruined after one of friends fell in love with another person (not just the physical variety of love) If friendship couldn’t survive the end of love, it was never meant to be.
The foremost truth: Why do a man and a woman decide to be friends?—There’s attraction.
* Conclusion
Friendship between a man and a woman is like a walk along a very narrow land separating the bay of knowing one from the ocean of love. A high tide tends to flood the piece of land.
A man and a woman can only be “just friends” before or after a relationship. Their friendship will eventually lead to either sex (that can be in verbal, in thoughts or in dreams) or love (including platonic love and one-sided attraction. In platonic love, there’s no sexual activity, but very often there is sexual attraction) unless both find each other unattractive.
Friendship between a man and a woman is as rare as true love. Give up your belief of friendship between a man and a woman; find your love first.
Hey the guy I like is my brother’s best friend. It’s weird for I can’t be myself around him. Every time I am I do something dumb or don’t even talk. The thing is that I think he knows I like him but he’s not interested. For there’s another girl that he seems to take interest in. I know I should give up but I can’t seem to. He’s just too nice. What should I do?
- Maria
I am posting this topic to receive as much advice as I can. I have been involved with a man for 6 months now, he was an ex cop but left the force in order to take care of his child full time & I had taken on the immediate role of an unofficial step mum position to his 5… year old son. His son is a lot to handle, he demands constant attention if not from his father than everyone else around him.
Whilst I understand young children may be like this, the man who was my partner has recently walked out on me just yesterday. He packed all their belongings & left. All because I asked him to show me some form of affection. I felt neglected as though I was non existent. I do not think a man who claims he loves a woman should make her feel like she would have to compete with a young child for his attention.
I am not jealous of his child, nor would I ever expect him to ignore his child for me, as I know he would be his priority, I simply hoped he would hear my cry & see to my needs as well. He clearly does not know how to balance a girl friend in his life with his son, so I do not know what I am supposed to say to him to help him realize that women need to feel special also & let him know how he can go about dividing his attention between two people.
- Lee
SO back in February I went out with a guy I always have really liked. After 3 days he tried to kiss me but I wouldn’t let him. He broke up with me the next day, but I really really miss him and I so want him back. What can I do?
- Sammi
My sister is dating someone my family doesn’t like. I admit I do not like him as well. My sister knows we don’t like him. So she separated herself from us. And that hurts my mother more than anything. Not only is she separated, she doesn’t respect us anymore.
I got in to a fight with her boyfriend. He even put his hands around my neck. She didn’t do anything. And that’s what hurt the most. She stood there staring.
He is a mean person, if only she knew. His last girlfriend tried to tell her. He uses her for money. All she does is work. And all he does is sit at home. Even when she comes home she cooks.
All she ever says to me is I don’t understand because I have never been in love. I may not have been in love. But I think I know a bad guy when I see them.
The only thing I can say to you guys is, your family loves you. And they know you. They only have your best interests at heart. So have faith in them…
- Diana
Hi, I’ve been with my boyfriend (we are both the same age) for just 2 months and everything was going fine till very recently. He had been twisting certain things that had been said and told me all about it in one go. Of Course my reaction was immediate of which I confided in my parents. I have a very close bond with my mum and my dad is the well typical “I’ll smash his face in” type. I’ve managed to get over this incident as I understand his reasons even though they are strange. But my parents have not.
My dad’s still threatening to punch his lights out and my mum refuses to talk about it as it gets her gander up. I really want to talk to them about it but they refuse too. They’re making it difficult for me to see him and aren’t allowing him round here now. It’s tearing me in two. I know it’s only been 2 months but I’ve known him so much longer that it feels more than that. It’s like Romeo and Juliet.
Their family has no problem with me as it seems. I know my parents love me and want what’s best but I can’t help but think they are being very single minded about the whole palaver. I mean if I can put it behind me then why can’t they? Any Advice?? It’s pushing me to the stage where I’m tempted to move out for a week or two to clear the air. I don’t want to have to do that.
Is there any other way?? Please help, Thankyou xx
- Lozz
I have been with my husband for 10 years, married for 2 1/2 of those years. We have 4 children. We get along well but my husband has been seeking local women from a social website for the past couple of years. Each time I have caught him up by bringing up his account and reading inbox messages he’s sent to these women. The women almost never respond back to him.
We have had arguments about it over and over. Just yesterday I found out that he emailed an individual saying he wanted to see her naked breasts. When I confronted him, he told me I was wrong for looking at his account because it’s his own privacy and I have no right.
So my question is am I wrong if he accidentally leaves his account open and I look at his inbox messages, or should I be more attentive to what he is doing since I already know something is not right?
- Angie
For a year I was dying to met a guy that attended the same church as me. Everyday time I see him I would feel that he was the right one for me and I knew I really wanted to meet him. My sister decided to go and ask for his number with out my permission and I was surprised to find out that he was interested in meeting me.
He txt me that day and it was like a dream come true. We txt hours and he asked me out on a date. I thought he was going too fast. He explained that he would be leaving to Paris for 2 months and he wanted to get to know me more and spend time with me before he left.
We went on a date and he was so sweet and nice. By the end of the date we went to a lake and not planned we were hugging and then we kissed. I feel good about it and idk he did.
After the date he would txt me and he said we were gonna keep in touch when he was gone. I gave him my email and a week later after he left he emailed me. I replied and he did answer the second time but after the third time I emailed him he didn’t reply back.
I emailed him for his birthday and he did answer to that email. He asked me how I was doing and that he was really glad to hear from me but it was short and simple not like the other emails he had sent me long and flirty. I replied back and he has not answered me.
I’m a person who worries too much and I can’t stop thinking about him and our date. But the thing is that, do you think he has lost interest in me? Or he met someone else in his trip? Maybe I’m over exaggerating. I’m afraid that when he comes back he would not talk to me no more or he would tell me that he meet someone else in Paris. Should I just wait and take things slow?
- Maria