Let us first define what communication really is. If you ask Merriam and Webster – they would say that communication is the act of transmitting a verbal or written message; simple enough and very easy to do. But why do most relationships fail for this very simple reason?
In a relationship, it is not necessary that you go through everything that went on in your day with your partner. Communication goes far beyond words that are spoken. It is both mental and verbal, and at certain times, even physical.
Most relationships that fail do so because one or both parties involved do not take the time to communicate. You must be able to express your thoughts and your feelings, and at the same time, be able to absorb your partner’s thoughts and feelings.
Communication is a Two Way Process
You can sit with your partner and talk to them all day about everything. But if they do not listen, then it is useless. People tend to forget that the art of listening is even more important than the art of talking. You will both learn and grow if you know how to listen. Subsequently, you must not take control of the whole conversation. You must also give your partner a chance to express himself, and you also need to listen. That way, you can build a deeper understanding of each other.
Is Your Partner not Communicating?
It is possible that this is because you are too consumed with your feelings and you only focus on what is wrong with them. Your ears are only open to what you are saying, not to what they’re saying. Do not forget, you are not perfect, and neither are they. What you must do is to open yourself to what they have to say and involve your partner in resolving the problem. Remember, this is the main reason why you are in a relationship. That means if there is a problem, you have to work things out together.
Another form of effectively communicating is being able to recognize your partner’s thoughts through their actions. There really are people who do not speak much, which is why you must learn to identify if there is something that they wanted to say. Be sensitive enough to recognize if there is something unusual in the way they react of if they start doing things that they do not often do. Your deep understanding of your partner’s personality and character will be useful here.
Working Things Out
Some people enter into a relationship thinking that they will not encounter any problem. Sorry to pop your bubble, but you do not live in Wonderland. You will definitely stumble upon issues and have disagreements. You must realize that this does not mean that your relationship is not meant to be or that you have to let it go. You have to work things out. You both have to communicate. Always remember, communication strengthens your bond and if you know how to communicate, your relationship can certainly be a lasting one.