Comments on: Boyfriend vs Parents

By: Emily

Emily — Thu, 29 Jul 2010 13:47:01 +0000

I need advice asap! I’m 18 years old and has been with my boy friend now for 6 months. We have been struggling recently due to the fact that my parents hate him and don’t want me seeing him. This is because he doesn’t have a job at the moment & rarely takes me out but has offered many times & does anything he can for me. Any ideas on what I should do? I’ve been going through a lot these past months and I can see myself with out him. I know he’s trying and I know he loves me, I just don’t know how to get my parents to just back off and let me be with him. Can anyone tell me what to say or do for my boyfriend to be accepted by my parents?

By: Diana

Diana — Fri, 25 Jun 2010 21:30:38 +0000

I don’t really have any advice. But I do know my sister is dating someone my family doesn’t like. i admit I do not like him as well.

My sister knows we dont like him. So she separated herself from us. And that hurts my mother more than anything. Not only is she separated, she doesn’t respect us anymore.

I got in to a fight with her boyfriend. He even put his hands around my neck. She didn’t do anything. And that’s what hurt the most. She stood there staring.

He is a mean person. if only she knew. His last girlfriend tried to tell her. He uses her for money. All she does is work. And all he does is sit at home. Even when she comes home she cooks.

All she ever says to me is I don’t understand because I have never been in love. I may not have been in love. But I think I know a bad guy when I see them.

The only thing I can say to you guys is, your family loves you. And they know you. They only have your best interests at heart. So have faith in them…

By: Lozz

Lozz — Sun, 13 Jun 2010 22:02:56 +0000

Hi, ive been with my boyfriend (we are both the same age) for just 2 months and everything was going fine till very recently. He had been twisting certain things that had been said and told me all about it in one go. Ofcourse my reaction was immediate of which i confided in my parents. I have a very close bond with my mum and my dad is the well typical “ill smash his face in” type. Ive managed to get over this incident as i understand his reasons even though they are strange. But my parents have not. My dads still threatening to punch his lights out and my mum refuses to talk about it as it gets her gander up. I really want to talk to them about it but they refuse too. Theyre making it difficult for me to see him and arent allowing him round here now. Its tearing me in two. I know its only been 2 months but ive known him so much longer that its feels more than that. Its like romeo and juliet however theyre family have no problem with me as it seems. I know my parents love me and want whats best but i can’t help but think they are being very single minded about the whole palava. I mean if i can put it behind me then why can’t they?

Any Advice??

Its pushing me to the stage where im tempted to move out for a week or two to clear the air. I dont want to have to do that.

Is there any other way??

Please help, Thankyou xx

By: yzza

yzza — Tue, 08 Jun 2010 01:52:52 +0000

guys…i can personally say that most parents are like that, i dont know if its their way of testing or just because they are from a conservative family. They will try to tell you that they just want whats best for you. To tell you the truth, I’ve experienced the same dilemna as well. and it was a “lot harder” than what i have expected. EMOTIONAL TORTURE, DEPRESSION and FEELING OF HOPELESNESS.. but i tell u, you just have to be stronger… stronger than you have ever been. u just have to prove them that you are of the right age to know whats best for you., that you are now capable of making decisions for your OWN LIFE and that u have made the right decision. If your are 101% sure that you love the guy then you dont have to be scared of anything, in time they will realize that.

maybe it would take a long time., everything will pave way in the end. just do not lose hope. we all know in our hearts that no one could ever dictate to us who will we love and who will we be with, its only up to us…only us.

I hope this has helped you guys..

By: jewelz

jewelz — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 14:10:43 +0000

hi im 18 and having the same problems plzz help me!!!
ps.i knw im a little late

By: Bodict Pril

Bodict Pril — Thu, 18 Feb 2010 13:47:37 +0000

Hi! i just wanna share our simple yet very complicated love story of me and my boyfriend..Actually, we’re just new in our relationship..and my main problem is..my parents doesn’t know that I’m already committed to this guy whom I’m always seeing…But I know that they already have an idea..They’re just waiting for me to share and to formally introduce my man..And we have this conflict on our religion..I’m a Christian and he’s a catholic..that’s the another problem here..But i really love him..So, I made up my mind to fight for our LOVE..My parents love me and I love them too..But loving my boyfriend is the another side of it..It’s LOVE and I can’t compare it to anybody else..I’m willing to give my ALL..so my parents will accept us and eventually let us be together FOREVER…I’m really looking forward to be with him FOREVER…To be my husband and the father of my kids..Please Lord help and guide US…=)

By: Jane

Jane — Sat, 23 Jan 2010 00:35:31 +0000

The biggest mistake i would say is ever getting stuck in a situation where you have no choice but to live with them, you feel like a peice of crap!, you can’t have the freedom that you feel with your parents. my boyfriends parents are very old timers, they never educated themselves to modern times and don’t full understand how to open a cordless phone and press the numbers hard like its a punching typewriter, the father is a loud anoying italian, they can’t hear and blast the tv and stay home in the kitchen and watch tv, and are home all the time, I get no privacy and its killing me inside and our relationship, because i transform into some beast, if i buy food we have to share, but i dont want to cook in another womans kitchen because i feel already disrespectful staying here, they dont’ know how to take a vacation because they are too cheap, and don’t know what to do. I haven’t been able to get a job in a long time, i dont like being stuck in this situation but its just terrible i am gong nuts, i want to leave but the more i try to be positive more negative things build up inside, i have no choice but to sit on these old renesanse coutches which hurt your back, there is no place to study but on the floor because these people dont read books and sit at the kitchen table for 5 hours in a row, my boyfriend i know he loves me because he tries his best, but he sees moving out (not like we can afford it) as loosing another 1000 dollars a month if he could make that much, i can’t get a job in quebec for some reason either because my last name is too english or that im not giiving in to this quebec cultre stuff. Hiding from your parents is nothing, at least you get to sneak out a make really passionate quickies, we sleep not even ten feet away from the parents who snore so loud at night and i am already turned off from wanting to do it, This situation is just the worst, they dont’ understand nothing their deaf and dumb, but i have to appreciate how much i should be greatful somebody cares enough, but even then as i try it gets worse, because the fact i can’t make a meal and buy food without them taking it for their own, builds up inside, and i know its good to be nice etc, but why use out the food on the days that im looking for it, i can’t eat breakfeast with just him and i because their home all the days of the week, they go to work at the flea market at times but now their comming home earlier and earlier and wtf , when can i make something for us, and if i leave it in the fridge she comes along acting like a dummy oh whats this, which usually means i dont want it there, When ever i come back and i find them there i transform, all i ask is a few hours just to have quiet alone time, it ain’t happening i have no friends, no family that gives a shit about me nothing, and no place is hiring me

By: socal

socal — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 21:44:23 +0000

Im 48 and my girlfriend is 20. We love each other very much in spite of our large age difference. She has kept the relationship secret from her parents for almost a year because she is afraid they will be very angry. Her grandmother died a couple weeks ago and she is really reluctant to tell them. Any advice?

By: Beka..

Beka.. — Tue, 19 Jan 2010 01:23:28 +0000

Hey girl i feel ya..
I had been seeing this guy for 6 months im crazy about him!!
I mean im in LOOOOVEE! I kept are relationship a secret because my dad and brother and mom didn’t like him. He is a great guy!! he used to be a little wild in the past but he really has changed. im not a partier or any of that stuff and he used to be that’s what my parents hate about him. They won’t even give him a chance, if they would have at least given him a chance i wouldn’t be near as mad. But anyhow, they found out that we were togather and freaked. My dad took my car away, they took my phone. I was cut off all contact from him. and he still waited for me, he loves me!! lol but anyhow.. im still seeing him we are just keeping it a secret, and when im 18 im going to move in with him. he has a nice house, a good job and has his act togather now.. he wants me to marry him someday too!! i can’t see my life without him i really can’t.. but can i get any info on when it’s legal for me to move out im 17 now!! and would love to leave now. i would still finish school and go to a tech school and get my nursing degree. i mean im not thinking irrationally im a smart girl and have planned all this out.. So is there any way at 17 i could legally leave without being emancipated???? all the help would be wonderful.. thanks.

By: acrossDmiles

acrossDmiles — Thu, 24 Dec 2009 07:05:53 +0000

am on the same boat as yo’all guys,, am 20 my present bf has alot of responsibilities with him and his way older than me,, and whats tough is wer in LDR and my parents didnt know a thing about it,, and as i know my parents they sure wont agree with our relationship,, so am forced to lie,, i dont want to,, my bf and i even try to just be friends and forget our relationship,, but it didnt work for us, nature always takes its course to keep us together,, so despite of all that,, we are now taking our relationship seriously,, even though wer freaking want to be together and get married,, we’d agreed to persue our relationship “with my parents” after i finished my studies and if wer both stable enough to be on our own,, wer still together now though its hard we know in time we can face my parents and assure them that we can be on our own and by dat time we can make sure everythings gonna be fine..

i kn0w this makes me a BI,, but for me (because my bf and i have a goal for ourself) if ur love to each other is true,, keeping ur relationship secret (for a mean time) to your parents is ok if this helps you through,, while you guys are reaching your goal.. i dont know if i explained it properly lolz..

i do still understand the point of my parents.. thats why my bf and i decided to wait and just take things step by step,, we are madly and crazily inlove with each other and we know ourselves that we cant live without each other,, but we also know that LOVE wont be enough we sure want to give each other the best of wat we can give,, we thought of our future together that might help you guys t0o.. we started to think of the “what if’s” and the “are we capable of” / “can we” those kind of things.. that helps as realize that if we want our relati0nship to workout we should fill the remaining aspects of commitment that we’re lacking..

our parents just wants the best for us,, and they sure know that not all the things they thought right is best for us,, s0o try to make them understand in time,, for me the ” in time” is when i can assure them that am mature and stable enough for myself and be to make the right decision and know its consequences..

hope this help u guys…
i know not everybody will agree with me,, am open for some comments,, feel free to reply thanks!