I have a problem with a girl. I don’t know whether it’s a problem. I spent 6 months studying the girl and I spent weeks talking to her. We both started to talk nicely and we became friends.
For me I don’t want her just as a friend but my lover. I kept calling her, talking to her. I decided to invite her for a coffee; she refused to come. I told her that I loved her; I saw a little smile on her face but she didn’t answer my proposal at that time so I called her on the phone and I asked her to give me an answer but she said two different things..
1. The girl said she didn’t like me. 2. She said she didn’t like that; she wanted us to be just friends and I said ok we could be friends. I tried all my best to have that girl; all my friends feel shy to talk to her. She doesn’t like talking. A lot of my friends want her as their girl but they can’t talk to her because of me. They knew that girl as my girl.
I decided to stop talking to her, so I stopped thinking of her and all the things I had been doing because of her. One good day, just called her to say hi to her, and said, this time I had decided not to call her and I didn’t mind. I said oh I knew she did not like that and she said she didn’t like me.
This is my story. The same girl she will call me today..so I don’t know what to tell her and I do love her so much with my heart…what do u think I have to say?????
- Elvis
Tags: Bestfriend vs Lover
In a friendship if one party is actually in love with the other one then this friendship is in question.
The only chance is that some day luckily it will be naturally “upgraded” to love relationship.
I would suggest you to temporarily forget her, not even call her to say hi because it’s not a true friendship and in your heart you still love her. Your friendship is a lie. Tell her this. Tell her you are suffering. Tell her you don’t want to hurt her but keeping in touch with her just as a friend hurt you. Let her make a choice.
So some day she may date with other guy and you may fall in love with other girl. At that time if you both think it’s still necessary for you to be friends then you are friends, but I think at that time neither of you will be actually interested in friendship idea.
Or some day after dating with other guys or girls you both finally find you still love each other then you become lovers. This chance is rare but it can happen when a shy girl like her finally finds where her true feeling lies.
Anyway if she indeed doesn’t and will never love you then even if you date with her it will only hurt you. Forget her.