Not every successful person is a narcissist but most narcissists are successful. It helps you notice in case you encounter one before you are attracted to him and fall in love. Even if they are too young to be recognized as successful, they are more successful than others in the same age bracket.
There are many kinds of success. Famous writers, artists, scientists: They are all successful people. Their novel, painting or invention brought may bring them fame, but they are happy doing what they enjoy regardless of success, though they may feel happier if their creation is recognized.
Narcissists are not into these worthy fields. They are into money, but money is not really their final goal. Their aim is people, the world, the fame of being admired by people and then the power to “run” the world. They don’t contribute a novel, a painting, an invention; for them, these things are unimportant. In their hearts, narcissists may be jealous of those writers, artists, scientists, nevertheless, superficially they try to confirm their success by constantly emphasizing that true success is money, power.
They are good at talking, good at convincing people of their success; that’s where their charm lies and charm blinds your eyes. Be aware, some real life-long misery can start from blind happiness. For a narcissist, if convincing means to lie, then he will lie. Others’ admiration rather than honesty is what makes them comfortable. Some people are unable to lie simply because doing so makes them feel uncomfortable in their heart. Nonetheless, for narcissists, the final goals of fame and power are the only important ones.
What does a narcissist truly bring you? A creation, an invention that benefits society? People who admire narcissistic leaders will carry out these detail jobs for them. Do we need narcissistic leaders? Yes, we do, in some situations (not all), especially in chaos, however, does anyone need a narcissistic husband or wife?
Only if you are a narcissist too, or if you like to be tortured.
October 11, 2011 at 8:11 pm
I am involved with a narcissists! We also have a sex relationship too. Lately his demands for sex have been uncalled for. Very mean and won’t stop until he gets what he wants. In the mean time, Im suffering and hurting really bad. Im attracted to my narcissists, or am I just lusting after his sex? He won’t ever love me. He wants me to love him? Huh! I won’t. Im very hurt by him.