Narcissist

Successful

Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs is a theory that sums up the life we pursue and the one that will eventually lead to our ultimate happiness. They are:
1. Physiological;
2. Safety;
3. Love/Belonging;
4. Esteem;
5. Self-actualization
The world is colorful and people are different. A person like me sees others' happiness as my own happiness. I like to help people live a happy life. I can't cover all topics in short and rather, I prefer to dig them one by one in great detail. In this way, you walk every step perfectly and then form your entire happy journey gradually.
This blog's purpose is to help perfect your relationship starting from your love/belonging need. Still, I won't begin with relationship as a whole; on the contrary, I would like to start from a very specific type of person to discuss about. They are called "narcissist". It's not important what they are called. It's just a name, a label to differentiate them from other types.
I would not right away define what is "narcissist", but still begin with very readable facts you may exactly encounter and your participation of the discussion will help fulfil our "theory" and help find the best strategy to solve real life relationship problem.
Today I will only make one example and the good one. Not every good one like this is narcissist but most narcissists are good in this same way. It helps you notice you may encounter one before you are attracted to and fall in love.
They are successful. Even if they are too young to be really successful in some way, still, they are more successful than others in same age. Be aware, some real life-long misery starts from blind happiness.
There are many kinds of success. Famous writers, artists, scientists, they are all successful people. The novel, the painting and the invention brought by them are the final production and this may bring them fame. They are happy doing what they like regardless of success and they may feel happier if their creation is recognized.
Narcissists are not into these. They are more into money, however, money is not really their final goal. Their aim is people, world, the fame of being admired by people and then the power to "run" the world. They don't contribute a novel, a painting, an invention; for them, these are tiny. In their heart, they may be jealous of those writers, artists, scientists, nevertheless, surfacely, narcissists try to firm their success by constantly emphasizing that the true success is money, power. They are good at speech convincing people; that's what their charm lies and a charm blinds your eyes. For them, if convincing means to lie, then lie. Others' admiration is what makes them comfortable but not the honesty for some other kinds of people. Some people can't lie simply because to lie makes them feel uncomfortable in their heart. Nonetheless, for narcissists, the final goal is the most important. What do they truly bring you? Any creation, invention that benefit society? People who admire narcissists leaders will do these detail jobs for them. Do we need narcissists leaders? Yes, we do, in some occassions (not all), especially in chaos, however, do we need a narcissistic spouse? Only if you are a narcissist too or if you like to be tortured. - to be continued