Time

Last time, we talked about the topic "Choice" and focused on the Choice between friend and lover. The result of the two specific cases we discussed is apparent that the lovers have to say goodbye. So before move on to next topic, we need to help with the popular "Love or Not" inquiry first.

As we mentioned in "Friend vs. Lover", there are two major breakthroughs: relationship and personality.

Different personalities react differently. This girl said, if he cheated on you, go kick him. Another one said, make sure that this guy your with treats you the way you deserve to be treated. Don't settle for less. People with such personalities are more likely to get over the pain in a short time.

I sum up this topic in great detail as follows in the hope of helping some other people whose personalities don't allow them to easily get over the pain.

When you have to say goodbye to someone you still love, the situation is always like this: your mind says let him go but your heart says hold on. Please read the following notes carefully and if necessary, over and over again till you feel it helps.

A relationship is where both people give it their all and put everything into it

There are different reasons that we have to say goodbye to our lover, but whatever reason it is, we know that it's the end. This is something you must realize first. If not, no one is able to truly help you. Remember, if hes done it once, he'll do it again and you deserve better than that. It's YOUR life and you only get to live it once.

Timeout

What you have to do is to separate, with no contact, give yourself time to close out that part of your life. Remember, its hard to go through another door when the other door is still open. There are indeed tough situations that for whatever reason you still have to face him every day. If you believe that it's a really hard situation for you to possibly forget him, then sometimes to move to another place may be necessary, depending on your strength. Imagine a life without him. Live a life like you have never met.

Keep yourself busy and meet new people

What you need to do is to hang out with friends, go to movies or parties, do whatever you can to get out of the house or just keep yourself busy and meet new people.

Don't be involved in another relationship too soon

How soon is too soon? It depends on whether you believe that you have passed "timeout" and forget about your ex. To look for comfort from someone else will only hurt you more and even worse it will hurt the person you seek comfort from. This one is as important as the first point, otherwise, no one is able to truly help you out.

It hurts but eventually you will find someone better

Eventually, you'll end up meeting another guy even better than this one that will make you so much more happy. People did find true love and happiness later. You will be thankful to lose him when someone else nicer comes! On the other hand, if he would have stayed then things could have turned out a lot lot worse. This is a statistics-proved conclusion. Again, as we mentioned in "Friends vs. Lover", sometimes when people are tied to an unhappy relationship, they will always complain that they are not as lucky as their friend who finds his / her true love, nevertheless, they aren't aware if they don't finish their ongoing relationship, it's very hard for them to find true love. Remember this!

Time understands love; time also heals wound

Just hang in there, everything will be okay. You just need to give it time. Time heals all wounds and if you just live life to the fullest everything will be alright.

Simply quote two song titles for you: one is from Eragon; the other one is from Bridge to Terabithia.

Keep holding on and Keep your mind wide open!