I have been going out with my boyfriend for over a year now. Things were great when we started going out for the first 3 months at least. We broke up for about 1 month but we were always together during it. When we started going back out things were great he treated me better than ever, but then things started to change. He never wants to be around me and we always fight. when he started to live with me, things just got worse. He threatens to break up with me all the time, or leave me. He calls me names and says Im a crazy bitch because I wanna talk to him instead of fighting. He never keeps his promises. Im starting to become really depressed. I dont know what to do.
- gina
Tags: Boyfriend Change, Break up
Honestly, I can answer this one very easily as I lived this exact life for over 8 months. It was the worst mistake I made. Get out while you can. Next thing you know he will start to call you every time that you are not with him and stalk you at work and then it will escalate from there. Mine called me 38 times in one day and I found him perched on my doorstep waiting for me when i got home. Despite my attempt to throw him out it almost became physical. i then packed everything he owned and told him to come get it. When he showed up, I told him not to come in, put his stuff on porch and set myself free. All of a sudden I had my self esteem, my confidence and my pride back. You can do it but you must be strong to make the decision to have him be gone and stick with it no matter what he says to you. You can do it.
Gina,
I have been in a very similar situation to you. And Im sure you have heard this many, many times before, but you are worth so much more than him. Everyone deserves to be treated with love and respect, and those are two things which need not be asked for in a relationship.
Although it may be one of the hardest things you ever have to face, you have to give him an ultimatum – if things don’t change, then it’s over between you two. And follow through with your threat.
If he doesn’t change then he was not worth it, and as hard as it may be, you have to move on with your life. I am sure you have loving family and friends to h elp you through this difficult time, and in a few months time, when you look back on this situation, you will be able to laugh at how pathetic he was. Although you may love him, you have to learn to love you more.
There is a perfect guy out there for you, as cliched as it may sound, and he will treat you with all the respect you deserve.
I know what you are going through, and it sucks. But you will get through this, and come out a better and stronger person at the other end.
So get out there girl and show him just what he missed out on. Im sure he will regret what a big mistake he made treating you the way he has. And if he doesn’t, then he’s even more of a dumbass.
Goodluck, and best wishes.
XOXO