EVER argue with a narcissist, you can’t get them to be reasonable, fair, kind, decent, or loving (much less force them to tell the truth or take any responsibility for their actions or bad behavior) As someone who grew up surrounded by highly educated, over achieving narcissists (mother, father, older sister) I know firsthand that the only thing that results from arguing with a narcissist is that you will get very hurt, very confused, rather frustrated and angry, and feel completely crazy yourself. (Which to them is a win over you) You are playing a game (and it is a game!) that they invented for themselves to win… and they WILL win, have no doubt. Facts don’t matter to them… truth doesn’t matter to them…YOU don’t matter to them (beyond what strokes their ego or serves their own selfish interests…)
The whole gist of being a narcissist seems to be that nothing matters more to them than their own self image. And those self images have nothing to do with any actual reality… Arguing with a narcissist is never going to alter that, no matter how much you want to believe that there is a good person “somewhere in there DEEP DEEP down”. Save yourself a trip to the rubber room…
- Shoop
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January 17, 2009 at 3:35 pm -
how do you know if you are a narcissist?
Antony
January 19, 2009 at 2:21 am -
Here’s narcissist’s check list.
January 19, 2009 at 2:24 am -
Narcissist is discussed in narcissist’s category.