OK, OK, I understand, it’s the most difficult emotional time to get over. I understand that the relationship advice in “Goodbye Lover” and “Heartbroken” on how to get it over are so rational and apparent that we all know them but they are hard to carry out in real situation of that moment. The reason is that the relationship advice is too late.
So, today, we switch an angle from being too late to being in time, if not early, when you are still rational. Yes, this piece of relationship advice is for those who are not yet being in love or who just fell in love and still have vision.
Today’s topic is called “Love Cost“, however, this cost of love is not the one that ultimately leads to a long lasting happy marriage, therefore, actually called “Breakup Cost of Love“.
How much does a breakup cost? Of course, financially it cost you. The more serious your love relationship was, the more cost it may occur.
However, are you aware of the hidden cost of a breakup?
First of all is your emotional cost, that is your lowered self-esteem, being sad, depression, being lonely, regret, guilty, pain and insomnia.
The second one is the benefit of current love, so a breakup is also called as “lost love”.
The third one is the unrealized invested cost: money, emotion, time and energy on the wrong person with no expected returns and this cost could have been spent in having more friends, finding or furthering your career.
The fourth one is your previous friendship loss. Because you became lover, you lost a friend.
Because love with no result is costly, it hurts so bad when you break up.
On the other hand, because it’s costly, to ensure you are rich enough to date and possibly lose love some day with less pain, you need to preserve a decent amount of saving.
First saving account is your true best friends. Therefore, continue to expand and maintain your strong emotional support social network while dating. Always keep qualified potential soul mates as friends.
Second saving account is the news or stories of tragedy or grief. When you break up, read them, think about how miserable those people are. Compared with theirs, your life is much better, because you are rich enough to date. Or keep a saving account of heart-stirring books or songs. Concentrate your emotion on positive elements without a moment to be depressed. Internet can help you a lot.
Third saving account is the notes of your lover’s strong points and shortcomings. Please have two separate diaries ready for each purpose. When breaking up, simply read the shortcoming diary and tell yourself, “It’s not a regret at all to lose such a person.” But remember, never read it when everything is fine!
Please learn to accept the fact that finding your soul mate is a trial and you may make wrong choice.
