I need to leave my narcissistic man. He’s done everything from taping us having sex to posting it. I was on the airwaves talking about my most private parts and made me the laughing stock of the land. I’m I guess emotionally unstable. I love this wicked narcissistic man and can’t leave him. I tried once I ended up at a mental institution.
August 31, 2009 at 7:47 pm
I’m in the same situation where I find it very very very hard to part from a relationship with someone who is a narcissist. I’ve been the through all of the sexual humiliation just to hold on to him even though I know he’s the only reason that I’m miserable. I hope that you’re somehow able to find the strength to leave. I am in no way an expert but I know that I personally have started planning an exit strategy. I don’t know if it will work but I hope to God it will.
I’m planning on leaving the state and I’m trying to save enough money to do that. I know I’m not strong enough to do it if I’m still close to him.
Maybe that may work for you…I hope this helps.
September 15, 2009 at 6:52 pm
I left a narcissistic personality disorder, and he made it his mission to destroy everything in my life because I did leave him for good, for ever, he took all my money, destroyed my business, tried to destroy my relationship with my twin sister and friends. I was prepared and unprepared, I was prepared in the sense that I knew that he wasn’t going to stop until he totally felt that I was anihilated, and when I was left, broke, homeless, bankrupt,and emotionally scarred for life, he has dismissed me completely. I didn’t win the battle with him, but I won the war with myself, I know he was awful and disgusting and not someone I could have a happy life with. Money, career, material possessions could ever make up for the feeling that you will be better off without him and his disgusting behaviours. It has been 8 weeks since I filed a police report against him, 8 weeks since he destroyed my old life, 8 weeks since I have had to listen to him. And I am still picking up the pieces of my life, but I am me now.
fresh wounds says:
December 11, 2009 at 11:30 am
I was compelled to share my experiences with you. I recently decided to finalize a breakup that was lingering in my head for so long. I was dating a true narcissist, who was well aware of his self absorbed tendencies.
He would pressure me to do thing that made me uncomfortable and jusitfied it by saying it would beneift the relationship. Certain sexual positions made me extremely uncomfortable and were painful, but he believed that I should sacrifice once in a while for him. COmpletely disregarding my feelings. He felt that I was too opinionated and wanted a woman that did not challenge him as much. This was very difficult, but I could notice the slow change already occurring within me. We spent one year teaching overseas, totally disconnected from my social sphere. He acted as if he needed me in his life and that I was everything to him. When we returned, we went to different cities. Days later, he was a changed man, and his true narcissistic tendencies came through.
Above all, I was giving too much. I had enough and chose me… for the first time, I chose to love me more!
Please think about your situations and try to see how important and worthy you are of someone who adores you UNCONDITIONALLY. I believe it will happen for me someday.