This narcissistic husband fits for the following criteria: 1. Poor Loser 2. Admiration 3. Narcissist Wife He requests constant admiration while you offer him the opposite and this further enrages the poor loser. Since you don't fit for the ideal role of a narcissist's wife, he assumes that your ex-es couldn't put up with you for the same reason. Please read carefully each cases and comments at Narcissist and find your wayout. Good luck.
My husband is exactly the same way and I know he is a narcissist. He fits all of those attributes and then some. Its so hard to be with someone who is always right and is too busy being in love with themself to notice you or your wants or needs, yet constantly expects you to bend over backwards to their every wish. I havent figured out what to do myself. I left him once and we were seperated for a year, then he did the charm thing again and I ended up back with him. I love him more than anything but I cant take constantly being hurt, and I’m afraid because my decision will also affect our son. Can you ever truly cure a narcissist? And how would you know since they are so good at acting?
Actually no one would change himself / herself without an attack to make him / her realize it. Would you change yourself? \
I’m sorry I have to say in your case he won’t change since you won’t leave him, then he won’t lose you, so he has no reason to change.
If you leave him and he changed then you would go back to him again and the narcissism could come back again.
If you leave him forever then his changing or not has nothing to do with you any more.
To expect someone else to change is never a solution. You can change yourself or just leave him in order to keep yourself happy. His changing or not is irrelevant.
October 19, 2009 at 10:06 am -
This narcissistic husband fits for the following criteria:
1. Poor Loser
2. Admiration
3. Narcissist Wife
He requests constant admiration while you offer him the opposite and this further enrages the poor loser.
Since you don't fit for the ideal role of a narcissist's wife, he assumes that your ex-es couldn't put up with you for the same reason.
Please read carefully each cases and comments at Narcissist and find your wayout.
Good luck.
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May 11, 2011 at 5:28 pm -
My husband is exactly the same way and I know he is a narcissist. He fits all of those attributes and then some. Its so hard to be with someone who is always right and is too busy being in love with themself to notice you or your wants or needs, yet constantly expects you to bend over backwards to their every wish. I havent figured out what to do myself. I left him once and we were seperated for a year, then he did the charm thing again and I ended up back with him. I love him more than anything but I cant take constantly being hurt, and I’m afraid because my decision will also affect our son. Can you ever truly cure a narcissist? And how would you know since they are so good at acting?
May 11, 2011 at 5:42 pm -
Actually no one would change himself / herself without an attack to make him / her realize it. Would you change yourself? \
I’m sorry I have to say in your case he won’t change since you won’t leave him, then he won’t lose you, so he has no reason to change.
If you leave him and he changed then you would go back to him again and the narcissism could come back again.
If you leave him forever then his changing or not has nothing to do with you any more.
To expect someone else to change is never a solution. You can change yourself or just leave him in order to keep yourself happy. His changing or not is irrelevant.