Communication

My Boyfriend Dumped me out of Nowhere

My boyfriend dumped me recently and it was out of no where. After he broke up with me he told me it was because I didn’t have deep emotional conversations with him (Which is what I wanted I just thought he didn’t) now I know how I could fix this situation if he would ever take me back, but I don’t know how to win him back. Can you tell me how to do that? If we got back together I would make sure to stay together because I would talk to him more and communicate more often; because I understand now what happened.

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Min Min says:
November 26, 2009 at 1:30 pm
Your boyfriend didn’t tell you that you didn’t have deep emotional conversations with him until he broke up with you; perhaps he didn’t explicitly expressed his concerns or you didn’t pay attention when he did so.

No matter what, you two lacked communications in the past and it’s not all one person’s fault. Since you want to and are able to work on this relationship, at least you have the half chance to win him back.

However, please remember that a love relationship is where both people give it their all and put everything into it. If he didn’t explicitly expressed his concerns or you didn’t pay attention when he did so, and now you are willing to make it up, then you still have chance; however, if your boyfriend didn’t tell you that you didn’t have deep emotional conversations with him until he broke up with you, then it’s actually him who didn’t communicate with you and he will remain so. To win him back is to repeat mistakes.

Timing is critical in the love relationship. When the problem just occurs, it’s still trivial. If the communication is smooth and the problem is dealt with in time, the relationship will grow well; if not, then the problem grows till the love is gone. When the love is gone, makeup effort will be late and even unnecessary.

Since we only know what’s on your mind but not what’s on his, you can just tell him straightforwardly as what you told me and I will pray for you. In case you miss the timing of holding his love for you, please take it easy and move on. If the communication is the only problem between you two, then years later, you two still can be good friends.

Please remember that a love relationship is not where one person gives it all and put every effort into it.