Firstly a little back ground on my GF. She used to be a player and have flirted with other men. Now she has pledged her faithfulness to me but still has many male friends. She talks about sex very casually to them and she seems to share many things with them. She claims that she mixes well with men and enjoys when those men says sweet things to her to please her. She says in this era this is so common and that that is not being unfaithful and it is normal.
When we started the relationship, I made a request that she discontinue from contacting her ex-lovers and she agreed as due to her past, I don’t feel very comfortable with it.. When I asked her if she had deleted contacts of these other mens, she said yes. I later found out that she still had these contacts on her facebook. When I questioned her, she said it was just to look at their pics. Recently I found out that she still sent Emails to her ex-lovers although contents I am not sure of and I would assume she still talks to them.
I tried many times to explain to her how I felt but still it did not work. Everytime she does these things I will feel very sad.
Is there a problem with me? Is there hope in this relationship?
Kind Regards
- Kure
January 5, 2010 at 1:49 pm -
There’s no problem with her and there’s no problem with you, but there’s problem in this relationship. You have different views on faithfulness. She will not be changed, and neither will you.
People who have different even opposite views on major issues usually attract each other more than people who are plain alike, however, different people cannot get along well long.
It’s a mistake to have started the relationship, but life is a series of experiences, therefore, say goodbye nicely and find yourself someone else who is like you; she will find someone else who is like her.