Me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 1/2 years… and have been through a lot. we broke up because I was insecure and had issues and he was immature but we realized that we were perfect for each other. He grew up and matured and I stopped being insecure. Only its coming back and although he has done stupid things he has not since (NEVER CHEATED) I always fear causing us to fight because of my stupid comments. But then when I try to talk about certain things with him about us getting married and how to fix our problems so he can … he just starts to get irritated and mad and then we start arguing… I mean some of these arguments are so stupid I can’t even remember why we even fought. But I need help and what to do because I don’t want to cause any fights. I just want to enjoy our relationship and not worry about that stuff.
- Randee
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February 16, 2010 at 9:36 am -
Because you are in love
March 18, 2010 at 10:34 am -
Everyone on this earth has an ego. Its that part of you that always wants to be right. When you fight about silly things, you’re both in ego-mode! The trick to getting past it is to accept whatever the situation is and be happy. For example, you want to get married. But you’re not married yet! So just enjoy dating, who cares if marriage NEVER comes, you’re happy together, right? And if he starts some silly argument, rather than argue back, (trying to be right!) just let him be irritated, smile, and accept the situation. When one person just STOPS. Just stops everything, the other person will have no choice but to follow suit. Check out a book called “A New Earth”. There’s some awesome advice in there, it’ll change your life. Hope all goes well! =o]
March 18, 2010 at 3:44 pm -
Well I really understand you. I also feel that way. Your not alone in this. I don’t have the best advice but……….. I guess if you love that person you should keep trying. I ask myself this question. When is enough? It becomes so draining that it seems that the other person doesn’t want what we want to fix thing with love and speak with our hearts and common sense why???? I too get really frustrated and want to give up. I get so tired of feeling crazy and arguing about things that don’t matter and feeling so sad cause we are losing precious time that could be spent together. I don’t know if I should stay or just let go. Maybe what I want is not in his understanding cause of his immaturity and his foolish way at looking at life but I love and care about him so I keep trying till the end until I have no more to give, hear and talk.We’ve been 2gether for 1 and 1month. I really relate to you and wish I could hear from you. I don’t have no 1 to talk to and well it would be great to hear from someone of my understanding because its really stressful. I hope with all my heart that the person you love puts more from their part and you too so things get better and try to talk to yourself in your head when arguing and tell your self to clam down and tell the other person you love them it might help ease things up. My heart and prayers and my best wishes.