Please think twice if your husband loves you and your boyfriend does not. If you go for someone who doesn’t love you at the cost of losing and hurting someone who loves you, it will be a regretful mistake.
Your boyfriend and you “love” each other because you are never truly together.
Mutual love on exactly the same level is ideal.
I don’t think you will be happy with your boyfriend as you expect. You have passed the age when you still can make costly mistakes.
Consider the fact that you may have lost the “spark” with your current husband partly because of your relationship with your ex. If your main complaint is not feeling feelings you think you should, maybe you could go to counseling and see why those feeling left you.
Hi Cindy, My first question would be. Did you ever love your husband to begin with? Your “friend” told you he just wants to be friends and you think there’s more to it. Of course there is you are both still married. You both would be leaving the comfortable for the unknown and that is a scary thing to do. I’m not really clear on what you mean when you said “You don’t talk that much when you can get it anywhere else” You also stated that he made promises to get you to have sex with him but then reneged on them. Just like women, man can change their mind on things. Just remember, it’s easy to feel love for something you want that you can’t have. And he has you hook line and sinker so why should he try?
I think your husband is the one who is getting screwed Have you told your him about how you REALLY feel? Does he know that you had sex with another man? Does he know you are having an affair? Do you have any children?
i see that you have asked for advice yet you havnt replied to any of the questions or e-mails that have been posted. i would personally have a different view of you if i knew you had children or not. that is only because if in fact you do have children not only are you hurting your husband you are hurting your children as well. i also believe that if you are dishonoring your husband you should leave him to get on with someone who loves him for who he is. it is unfair to be in a relationship with someone who is cheating and lying to you while they are working everyday for you while being completely in the dark about their life. you need to make a decision on what you truly want in this life you only have one to live. i personally dont think you deserve that choice considering what you have done already. a mid life crisis does not constitute ruining your life and those around you. so please let us see the truth in your response if you truly want the advice you so willingly asked for
April 15, 2010 at 8:14 am -
Hi Cindy,
Please think twice if your husband loves you and your boyfriend does not. If you go for someone who doesn’t love you at the cost of losing and hurting someone who loves you, it will be a regretful mistake.
Your boyfriend and you “love” each other because you are never truly together.
Mutual love on exactly the same level is ideal.
I don’t think you will be happy with your boyfriend as you expect. You have passed the age when you still can make costly mistakes.
Cherish what you have now.
April 15, 2010 at 11:23 am -
Consider the fact that you may have lost the “spark” with your current husband partly because of your relationship with your ex. If your main complaint is not feeling feelings you think you should, maybe you could go to counseling and see why those feeling left you.
April 15, 2010 at 8:07 pm -
Hi Cindy,
My first question would be. Did you ever love your husband to begin with?
Your “friend” told you he just wants to be friends and you think there’s more to it. Of course there is you are both still married. You both would be leaving the comfortable for the unknown and that is a scary thing to do.
I’m not really clear on what you mean when you said “You don’t talk that much when you can get it anywhere else”
You also stated that he made promises to get you to have sex with him but then reneged on them. Just like women, man can change their mind on things.
Just remember, it’s easy to feel love for something you want that you can’t have. And he has you hook line and sinker so why should he try?
April 15, 2010 at 11:30 pm -
I think your husband is the one who is getting screwed Have you told your him about how you REALLY feel?
Does he know that you had sex with another man?
Does he know you are having an affair?
Do you have any children?
April 18, 2010 at 3:46 pm -
i see that you have asked for advice yet you havnt replied to any of the questions or e-mails that have been posted. i would personally have a different view of you if i knew you had children or not. that is only because if in fact you do have children not only are you hurting your husband you are hurting your children as well. i also believe that if you are dishonoring your husband you should leave him to get on with someone who loves him for who he is. it is unfair to be in a relationship with someone who is cheating and lying to you while they are working everyday for you while being completely in the dark about their life. you need to make a decision on what you truly want in this life you only have one to live. i personally dont think you deserve that choice considering what you have done already. a mid life crisis does not constitute ruining your life and those around you. so please let us see the truth in your response if you truly want the advice you so willingly asked for