My boyfriend’s ex girlfriend really hurt him when it came to the end of their relationship and now she is starting to talk to him again and I really don’t like it but I know he won’t do anything and if she made any form of move he would tell her to go away and that he is not interested. I trust him. I just think she has a hidden agenda. We’re madly in love. We can’t sleep without each other and we are moving in together. I’m 3 weeks pregnant. We never argue. We bicker but we always speak our mind and listen to each other and we always talk things through. Now she has crept out of the woodwork and we’re bickering cause I don’t like that she wants to talk to him. He is wonderful. He is such a gentleman and he cares about me and I can’t figure out why any one would give him up. He always takes my breath away. Am I just being paranoid or am I jealous or am I just being protective cause I don’t want him to get hurt by her again or am I just scared I’ll lose him ???
- Alexandra
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May 28, 2010 at 11:32 am -
Hi Alexandra,
You are just being protective and scared you’ll lose your boyfriend, which is understandable. However, you should not bicker with him.
Your boyfriend is a wonderful man and you trust him. You should not bicker with him, instead, you should calmly talk things through to him as you do to me.
Tell him that he’s a wonderful man and that you trust him, but that you don’t want him to get hurt by his ex-girlfriend again. Please don’t comment on his ex-girlfriend in front of him. He knows her better than you do and you are in an unfavorable position to do so.
If he’s a wonderful man and you trust him, he’ll do it right. In case he gets hurt again, it’s still his business.
If she has a hidden agenda and she’ll hurt him again, he’ll eventually know. To bicker with him is to your disadvantage.
As for you, I suggest you to neglect her as if she’s nonexistent. If he’s yours, he’ll always be yours. Treat him the way as you always treat him. Don’t bicker with him. Only your tenderness will keep him.