I love my boyfriend and met after 5-6 months for first time. He did tell me about his ex but he mentioned me that he was not going back with her again. After making luv on fist date of our meeting, he is not showing anymore interest to call me out or meet me again. Recently he said he was confused and didn’t know what to do, whether to go for his ex or for me. He wanted some time to decide just a couple of days. I don’t know what he is up to. What should I do? Is this luv in any angle?
- DEPPANNITA
May 20, 2010 at 12:42 pm -
Hi DEPPANNITA,
Advice for online dating:
1. meet in person as soon as you like each other, because people in person can be different. In case feeling changes after meeting in person, the harm can be the least when you haven’t invested much feeling.
Another problem of waiting long to meet is that you’ll make an image of the other person on your mind, the longer time you wait to meet, the image you created on your mind will be stronger on your mind, the more different the image will be from that of real person, then the more disappointment this will result in.
You didn’t meet until half a year since online correspondence. You have invested much feeling and apparently your bf’s feeling changed after meeting.
2. Don’t have sex on 1st date, because the 1st meeting was an extension of online communication, it may last surfacely well until the end of the date, however, things may change after that when the person reviews the meeting.
If things are working perfectly after meeting, you can surely enjoy your dates later on. However, if things change after meeting, someone will get hurt if he / she already invested much.
Your case is normal. Your bf’s feeling for you changed after meeting.
We long for something when we don’t get it, but when we get it we may find it’s not something we want.
Take it easy. Good luck in your future search.
May 21, 2010 at 10:30 pm -
Beware of men who still have “feelings” for their ex. It is unfair to you Deppannita. He should sort out his feelinds before he gets involved with others. I have been there myself and believe me it is not worth the angst. Like Min Min said to me “save your love for someone who deserves it” and for some one who really loves you back. Put it down to experience Deppannita.