I don’t trust my boyfriend of one year. He has lied to me in the past and this left me devastated but I have tried to forgive him and I don’t think I can ever trust him again. I only hangout with him so I don’t feel like I have many other people in my life. Today we had a fight about trust. I told him I don’t think I can ever trust him coz of his lies and he stabbed himself with the pocket knife my dad gave him in the arm. He has said if I breakup with hm he’ll kill himself coz his life will be useless without me. He later apologized through a text for being suicidal. I’m so stressed out every day. I don’t know what to do. please help.
- h
May 8, 2010 at 6:37 pm -
Your issue is not mainly about trust, but more severely, that your bf threatened to commit suicide if you were to break up with him.
If it’s a simple trust issue, it’s easier; you just need to ask yourself if you can trust him. No matter whether he’s trustworthy or not, you are unable to trust him. Then we see the end of this relationship, sooner or later.
If your bf would threaten to commit suicide as long as you would leave him and meanwhile we see the end of this relationship, then the sooner the better, the later the more tragic.
Each of you has own problem: you have trust issue; he is extreme.
If you were to leave him, you would have to do so mildly and gradually till he doesn’t emotionally rely on you.
People are sometimes impulsive. They may do something irrational they normally won’t do when they are calm.
Don’t fight with him. Even if you decide to break up with him, don’t blame him. Relationship is not about who is right or wrong, but about choice, whether a couple both choose to stay together or not.
If you decide to stay with him, then you have to trust him and you’ll never have any chance to leave him anymore. It seems that only he has the opportunity to break up with you if he likes because you won’t threaten him, while you don’t.
Be well prepared.