I’ve been with my boyfriend for 5 months. A couple of days ago he confessed to sleeping with his ex while at a party completely drunk. What do I do? He’s quite a bit older than me, but that’s never been a problem or factor. I honestly believed before this that he was my soulmate. In my eyes before this happened he was the most amazing human being I had ever met. I loved him to pieces, and there was never a moment I doubted or was unsure of his feelings for me. We’ve spent every last second of every day with each other. I’ve met his entire family, and he’s met mine.
Problem is he lied to me from the beginning, he told me he broke up with his ex 6 months before we got together, but really they broke up only a month before we started dating. He broke up with her, and she wanted him back. They re-met at a party a couple of weeks ago, and they hooked up. He said it was very short lived, and was the biggest drunken mistake of his life. He said that she was crying, wanting to get back together with him, and he got sad and with the mixture of alcohol and whatever other feelings they ended up hooking up for about 10 minutes.
I love this guy to pieces, but I can’t get that image of them hooking up out of my head. I truly did envision a future with him, but now I’m so unsure what to do. He’s been sending me texts every 30 seconds, all day long apologizing and crying and saying it was the biggest regret of his life, and that I’m his soulmate, and that he needs me in his life. He keeps calling too, but I just don’t know what to do. He’s even resorted to asking me to hook up with a random, or even an ex, so he can feel the pain I feel and we can move on. But that, for me is a definite No! I’ve always been against cheaters, and said that I’d never put up with one, but I’m in this situation and I don’t know what to do!
Min Min says:
January 10, 2011 at 3:19 pm
I suggest you not to think about it at all and give yourself enough time to calm down and you’ll be able to make the decision for yourself without anyone’s help.
But you need to let him know you need time to calm down and ask for his understanding, otherwise you’re not able to make any wise decision at all.
Don’t let anyone else affect your decision. When you’re calm, you’ll be able to view it clearly and your mind will guide you with no problem.