We’ve been together for almost 7 years. He cheated and broke it off long before I found out. I was crushed and obsessed with the thought for months. I took him back because we both truly believed he made a mistake. It took a while to get past that madness and things were amazing. We couldn’t have been happier. He moved to the city I was living in so we could go to school together got a job and moved with me for a few weeks.
During that time, he met a girl at work. I was fine as long as she knew he wasn’t available..he started hiding things from me..texting her in secret. And I could feel things changing. I started to feel unwanted and wasn’t getting the same attention that I used to get. He was rude to me and wouldn’t hang out with me even though we lived in the same house. We’d fight over my issues with them and he’d get mad because of the way I was acting. But I can’t help it! After he cheated that one time I was never able to fully trust him.
We’ve been rocky for that past month now and its tearing me apart. He still talks to that girl from work and I try so hard not to worry, but I’m freaking out! I’m terrified that he’ll start having feelings for her or decide to break up. I don’t wanna lose the most important thing to me. I don’t know what to do. I fee like I’m the only one trying to make things work. And I almost feel like I’m forcing him to try also.. I literally think about all that’s going on nonstop! Its really taking a toll on me, my school work, work, and our relationship..
- cynthia
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June 27, 2011 at 8:37 am -
Hi cynthia,
You took him back and you were never able to fully trust him. Or you took him back and fully trust him, or you never take him back, otherwise you made a wrong choice. Whether he’s trustworthy and the other girl are irrelevant. It’s your choice.