When you find out that the person you love has betrayed you, it might feel like the world has been pulled out from under your feet. Being cheated on can rock even the strongest individual to their core, but it doesn’t have to break you. Here are some tips on how to survive being cheated on.
First, remove yourself from the situation. When you find out your partner has been unfaithful, you might be tempted to hang around and rant and rave, or repeatedly ask them why they did this to you. Even though it seems difficult, walking away is the best thing you can do during these initial moments of shock. Walking away doesn’t mean you’re turning your back on the relationship or not giving them a chance to explain. It simply means that you are taking time for yourself to determine how you truly feel. In the heat of the moment, you might say things to each other that you don’t mean or let your emotions run the show. Calm down, regroup and then tell your partner when you’re ready to talk. Take your time!
It’s crucial to remember that being cheated on isn’t a reflection of you. You didn’t do anything wrong in this situation. So many people try to justify their partner’s bad behavior by making excuses and blaming themselves. If they were more affectionate, if they weren’t so tired after work, if they were fifteen pounds thinner or five years younger, then maybe they wouldn’t have been cheated on. If only things were that easy to explain! Reality check-they aren’t. When someone cheats, it’s not because anything is wrong with you. It’s something inside of them that isn’t right, so never let yourself fall into a negative trap.
Of course no matter how much you try to avoid it, being cheated on can take a toll on your self esteem, and this is why it’s very important to surround yourself with people who truly love and care about you. Those people make you feel good about yourself and who remind you of just how much you deserve out of a relationship. Allow your friends and family to rally around you and accept their offers of support. Being cheated on is much different from dealing with a run of the mill break-up. Not only are you grieving the probably loss of a relationship, you’re letting go of everything you ever thought the relationship was in the first place.
Eventually, you will have to come face to face with the person who has cheated on you. There is no set rule that says you absolutely must end the relationship, but it is a fact that nothing will ever be the same again. If you do decide to give them another chance, be prepared for an uphill journey. Cheating leaves a trail of trust issues and hurt that won’t be repaired overnight. Because of this, many people choose to walk away from the relationship for good. For them, it would be simply impossible to fix what has been so painfully broken.