Relationship Advice

Age Difference

MinMin — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 22:05:44 +0000

Im 48 and my girlfriend is 20. We love each other very much in spite of our large age difference. She has kept the relationship secret from her parents for almost a year because she is afraid they will be very angry. Her grandmother died a couple weeks ago and she is really reluctant to tell them. Any advice?

- Socal

Other Men

MinMin — Tue, 05 Jan 2010 18:38:05 +0000

Firstly a little back ground on my GF. She used to be a player and have flirted with other men. Now she has pledged her faithfulness to me but still has many male friends. She talks about sex very casually to them and she seems to share many things with them. She claims that she mixes well with men and enjoys when those men says sweet things to her to please her. She says in this era this is so common and that that is not being unfaithful and it is normal.

When we started the relationship, I made a request that she discontinue from contacting her ex-lovers and she agreed as due to her past, I don’t feel very comfortable with it.. When I asked her if she had deleted contacts of these other mens, she said yes. I later found out that she still had these contacts on her facebook. When I questioned her, she said it was just to look at their pics. Recently I found out that she still sent Emails to her ex-lovers although contents I am not sure of and I would assume she still talks to them.

I tried many times to explain to her how I felt but still it did not work. Everytime she does these things I will feel very sad.

Is there a problem with me? Is there hope in this relationship?
Kind Regards
- Kure

Marry Me

MinMin — Mon, 28 Dec 2009 15:54:49 +0000

I am 40 years old single never married woman strictly spiritual , presently in relationship with a 38 years old never married guy who is atheist. this is my first relationship. We met one year back. everything is pleasant, we love each other but i am not sure whether he wants to marry me. he calls me regularly, gifts me, cares for me, takes me home, introduces to his family so on so. He shares all his fears , thoughts, dreams n plans with me. earlier in the begininng he told me that he never wished to marry ever, n that he had lot of relationships which r broken . i need to find out how serious is he n does he think me of marriage material. does he really loves me? we r yet to have physical relationship fully. he does expresses at times of going out n spending few days together. i desire to marry him before i get really serious.

- A.B.

Boyfriend or Father

MinMin — Sat, 26 Dec 2009 07:21:24 +0000

Really need advise. Im 22 and my parents have banned me from seeing my boyfriend who iv secretly been with 1 year. we both love each other but my father says he’ll kill himself if i go with this lad. wat to do? plz its cracken me up

- sandra

Love me

MinMin — Fri, 11 Dec 2009 23:44:02 +0000

I was compelled to share my experiences with you. I recently decided to finalize a breakup that was lingering in my head for so long. I was dating a true narcissist, who was well aware of his self absorbed tendencies.
He would pressure me to do thing that made me uncomfortable and justified it by saying it would beneift the relationship. Certain sexual positions made me extremely uncomfortable and were painful, but he believed that I should sacrifice once in a while for him. Completely disregarding my feelings. He felt that I was too opinionated and wanted a woman that did not challenge him as much. This was very difficult, but I could notice the slow change already occurring within me. We spent one year teaching overseas, totally disconnected from my social sphere. He acted as if he needed me in his life and that I was everything to him. When we returned, we went to different cities. Days later, he was a changed man, and his true narcissistic tendencies came through.
Above all, I was giving too much. I had enough and chose me… for the first time, I chose to love me more!
Please think about and try to see how important and worthy you are of someone who adores you UNCONDITIONALLY. I believe it will happen for me someday.

- Fresh Wounds

Win him back

MinMin — Thu, 26 Nov 2009 17:56:10 +0000

My boyfriend dumped me recently and it was out of no where. After he broke up with me he told me it was because I didn’t have deep emotional conversations with him (Which is what I wanted I just thought he didn’t) now I know how I could fix this situation if he would ever take me back, but I don’t know how to win him back. Can you tell me how to do that? If we got back together I would make sure to stay together because I would talk to him more and communicate more often; because I understand now what happened.

-Unknown

Right Guy

MinMin — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 19:57:00 +0000

I’m separated from my husband for about a year. I met this wonderful person who is the antithesis of my husband and wants me in his life. He is separated too. He is looking for a wife urgently and wants a commitment from me. I am not looking for a husband but a friend and companion right now. His neediness and impulsiveness worries me. I am confused if he is the right guy for me. I don’t want to make another mistake. please help.

- Lisa

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Trust Love

MinMin — Sun, 25 Oct 2009 17:48:00 +0000

I’ve been with a man for about two years. It seems no matter what I do, I can’t get him to realize that I love him. Sometimes, I don’t even know why we’re still together. I ask him, “Why don’t you think I love you?” and he says, “Oh, it’s just a gut feeling.” Every day, I try to convince him that I love him, but instead of taking notice of what I do, he simply focuses on what I do NOT do (I have a declining sex drive due to a lot of stress). Even with my declined sex drive, I cuddle with him, kiss him, build him up, do things with him, and tell him REPEATEDLY that I love him. But it never gets through. Frankly, I’m losing patience. Why should I keep telling him if he’ll never believe me? What should I do?

- Brian

Narcissistic Husband

MinMin — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 16:32:00 +0000

I feel like my husband is a narcissist, but can’t be sure. He obsesses over the college where he graduated and everything that he associates with. He displays everything related to his college’s name so he can visibly see the name when he passes by it. He speaks to himself (pretends to be an announcer at one of his college’s games), he speaks in third person always (”Daddy loves you”, “You need to love your husband”, etc.), can’t apologize (if when that miracle happens, it is only spoken as, “My bad”. He has to be forced to apologize and does so in a rage. He has a spoiled brat attitude, deserving and entitled.) He displays overwhelming pride for his relatives, his childhood, friends, etc., as long as that pride is a direct association to who “he thinks” he is. He is right, never wrong and will pass blame or avoid anything that denys him that glory (which happens to be me!). He once said that the reason all my boyfriends broke up with me was because they weren’t going to put up with me. He wasn’t even around at the time I dated the other guys, how would he know this? Furthermore, I broke up with the majority of the guys I dated and had never even discussed this with him. Narcissistic telephathy, I guess!

Am I off the mark or does he seem to be narcissistic? I’m at a loss here.

Thank you.

- Unknown