Falling in Love is a natural thing. However, the intensity and its consequences could be different between an adult and a teen. But the actual main difference is its level of maturity. An adult with its grown up experience can handle it better than an adolescent who is on the verge of experiencing what the child thinks as real love. There are many firsts for an adolescent, and falling in love is one of those emotions that your teen will have to go through as part of growing up. The thrill and the excitement of a teen once triggered is quite intense. Factors like watching a movie, reading novels, and seeing the sweetness of an older sibling or neighbors with their partners, could all the more intensify the emotion, and bring them to the imaginative world of romance.
Some parents are not prepared for this new development with their teens. They tend to worry too much especially when they see them running towards the phone or doorbell like never before, with eyes twinkling, and a smile that reaches ear to ear. In addition, they seem to become absent minded all the time. So, what do you do? How do you handle your falling in love teen?
Act Natural. My dear parents, your teen did not commit a crime. Don’t panic! Act as though nothing happened. Don’t bombard your teen with probe like questions. Sometimes, overreacting could cause more harm than good. This will only scare your teen away.
Enjoy the moment. You were a teen yourself. You know the feeling of elation. Savor moments like this. It is your teen’s first step towards the long ride to maturity. Most teenage relationships don’t last, particularly, from ages 13 to 15. This will serve as a training ground for them on how to handle future relationships.
Establish a Connection. Don’t be preachy! Once you have dealt with the situation naturally, then the wall that seemed to put your teen on the defensive side will loosen up. Your falling in love teen will be less cautious, and there will be openness between the two of you. Value the trust your teen has bestowed on you.
Casual Reminders. Now that you have bridged the gap, you may even share your own experiences to your teen, and casually remind her that what she may be experiencing is not real love. It could be more of an attraction. But be very careful about this, because your teen may think you don’t understand her at all. Always choose the right words to say.
Listen. This is very important. It is a skill that you have to master with your teen. They want you to listen to what they have to say, and not just the other way around. Don’t treat them as though they don’t know a thing about falling in love. Hear them out.
Elaine Enchiverri is a professional freelance writer who enjoys writing about various topics, including helping parents cope with their teenage children.
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