My boyfriend likes my best friend, and I think that she likes him back to. If only I can tell you how much I suffered and how much I stressed about it..I kept imagining the two of them hangin out together behind my back..it makes the situation even worse. But what can you do? I cant change a thing ..if they like each other then I cant do anything about it I guess.. I just feel so miserable..this is the worst Christmas ever..
- Unknown
Choice
Bestfriend vs Lover
The related cases we will refer to when we address this topic are under “Bestfriend vs Lover” menu.
Love has three major steps:
1. Fall in love;
2. Test love;
3. Love lasting or love ends.
If you love someone but you have never expressed your love, even if you suppose that you both love each other, then it’s not yet a love relationship; in this case, if a third person appears, you will be quite passive. This is a typical “Shy Guy” issue we will address later. Therefore, the boy in Best friend vs girlfriend case is in a “passive voice”.
Regardless of the boy’s being shy, let’s assume that the girl and him are in a love relationship when the other boy appears. The followings are the chances:
1. The boy talks to the girl and asks her if she loves him or the other boy. If the girl says that she loves the other boy, then the boy can have two different reactions:
one is relatively narrow-minded, to try all his best to disallow this to happen by all means (begging her, prohibiting their connection etc.) The successful rate is 50% or less. The successful part may be that the feeling between the girl and the other by will be gone due to disconnection, however, it doesn’t mean that the feeling between the girl and this boy will definitely be kept or deeper. The risk is that the girl may be negative against the boy’s “force”. Remember, even if she doesn’t love the other boy anymore, this doesn’t definitely mean that she will still love this boy, while the boy takes the risk in losing a friend at the same time. To be a true winner, one needs to win the other person’s heart.
The other one is more broadminded, to set her free. If she does love the other boy then she’s not yours; if she comes back to you, then she is yours.
Always remember the three love steps. The girl falls in love with the other boy. It’s understandable. The girl and this boy been together since KJ and the new boy’s appearing is of course refreshing. Just watch out their “love steps” and see the result.
Back to “set her free”. Remember to win one’s heart is true art. Be broadminded when she comes back. This simply means that love between the girl and the other boy is failed during the test, and all what this boy needs to work on might be to bring more freshness into the relationship.
2. Don’t forget your friend. Friend and lover, who is more important? It depends. If the lover is your true lover, of course she is more important, otherwise, friend is not less important. It happens that friends say goodbye to each other due to a boy or a girl; it happens more often that lovers say goodbye to each other with or without a reason; what is more, it happens too often that friends are forever!
Don’t forget to talk to your friend if you both fall for a girl. Friendship also needs to be tested! Talk to your friend that you love the girl. Tell your friend that you cherish your friendship as well as your love for her. Tell your friend that you welcome fair competition. Tell your friend that regardless of the result you always take him as your friend. In this way, you secure a true friend and if luckier, a true lover; or you secure a true friend, luckily, don’t keep a relationship with a “false” lover; or the “friend” is not your friend if he betrays you or if he refuses your fair competition or if he leaves you when he “loses”. You have nothing worthy to lose; you have everything worthy to gain.
3. It’s important not to introduce your lover to your best friend till the feeling between you and your lover grows strong enough, and before that anything may change it, especially a best friend, in that, you talk a lot about your lover to your best friend and about your best friend to your lover, therefore, they have more chances to know each other better and you actually created the chance for them to be close to each other. I’m pretty sure when a couple’s feeling goes truly strong, it will be firm enough to resist any other temptation.
“Friend or lover” is the other choice between friend and lover. This friend and lover is one person, and he or she can be your friend whom you are being in love with. So to be friend or to be lover, this is a question. To upgrade your friend to lover you take the risk of possibly losing a friend in the future. This person can be your ex-lover. To downgrade a lover to your friend again, can you still be friends?
I have a problem with a girl. I don’t know whether it’s a problem. I spent 6 months studying the girl and I spent weeks talking to her. We both started to talk nicely and we became friends.
For me I don’t want her just as a friend but my lover. I kept calling her, talking to her. I decided to invite her for a coffee; she refused to come. I told her that I loved her; I saw a little smile on her face but she didn’t answer my proposal at that time so I called her on the phone and I asked her to give me an answer but she said two different things..
1. The girl said she didn’t like me. 2. She said she didn’t like that; she wanted us to be just friends and I said ok we could be friends. I tried all my best to have that girl; all my friends feel shy to talk to her. She doesn’t like talking. A lot of my friends want her as their girl but they can’t talk to her because of me. They knew that girl as my girl.
I decided to stop talking to her, so I stopped thinking of her and all the things I had been doing because of her. One good day, just called her to say hi to her, and said, this time I had decided not to call her and I didn’t mind. I said oh I knew she did not like that and she said she didn’t like me.
This is my story. The same girl she will call me today..so I don’t know what to tell her and I do love her so much with my heart…what do u think I have to say?????
- Elvis
Hi, my name is Marlyn. I need serious relationship advice. My boyfriend and I broke up last Thursday. I always thought that he liked 1 of my best friends. When I asked him he would always say that it wasn’t true. That I was the only person he loved and no one else. Some time later, things started changing. He didn’t called me like he did in the beginning and he would act all weird with me all the time. Like if he didn’t care about me anymore. One day I asked my friend to call him and start flirting with him. She said ok and she started talking to him. She asked him if he liked her and he said that he had liked her since first they met. Some days later he asked her out. She said no because he was my boyfriend and I was her friend. He told her that that didn’t matter. That I wasn’t going to know. At the moment I was really sad. I knew that I had to break up with him. One day, my friend called him. I was listening to everything they were saying. Right in that moment I just got in the conversation. I told him everything. HE didn’t say anything. He jus got quiet the whole time, and then he hung up. I miss him soo much. I can’t forget about him. I would like to know what to do because I know that he doesn’t deserve me but that doesn’t change my love for him. Please help me. How can I forget about him?
Hey guyz I have a problem dat makes me feel dat I will go jump into the sea every minute I think about it
I was havin a friend, a real friend, and my love(the problem) was in my school from kj with me
When I go old and old I begin to love her. Now I like her more than u can imagine
but while I was goin with her to the cinema , I met the friend the best friend for me. Then he goes with us and here’s the surprise she loves him and he loves her in only a minute and I was lovin her more than 3 years and I was shy from telling her. What can I do ????????????????????????
- HayTheM