My Best Friend’s Baby Sister

I spend time with my best friend’s baby sister and she is sexy and beautiful and I am sexually attracted to her and I really want to have sex with her and I’ve always been attracted to her in some way but I’ve always told myself she’s not my type.

I was talking to her the other night and for some reason that changed. I think it’s because I got the vibe she was attracted to me and my best friend doesn’t like I like his baby sister and me and her flirt each other in front of him and I was talking to her the other night and for some reason that changed and when I really focused on it I realised she had a lot of qualities I like.

I think the problem I have is that I’ve pushed away or scared off the girls that have showed an interest in me. I worry that if I pursue my attraction and it goes bad it’ll damage my relationship with my best friend. I think some part of me isn’t done figuring out what I want from a relationship. I don’t want to hurt anyone and I don’t want to lose friends but I don’t want to pass up an opportunity at real happiness.

Sometimes I fear I can’t trust myself though. I worry sometimes that I want something so much that I see things that aren’t there. Maybe she really isn’t my type and this is merely a momentary laps in judgment which would lead to a disaster if pursued. I’m thinking I’ll invite her out to lunch some time and take it really slow trying being ‘just friends’ for a while and get to know here better and try not to flirt too much and what should you think I do with her and should risk my friendship with her brother and what do you think I do?

– Leighray092383

Min Min says:
April 7, 2011 at 7:21 am
Your friend doesn’t like that you and his sister flirt each other, so if you care about your friendship with your best friend, you should talk to him to know what he thinks. If he doesn’t like that you date with his sister, perhaps not even like that you ask her out, then your friendship is already challenged. If he’s OK with your asking her out and your possible dating her in the future, then your taking it slow is right.

I am in Love with my Friend

We have been friends for 13 years and I fell for her 1 year ago. It’s been awkward, but we manage to stay friends. Well she started staying at my place off and on, she would sleep on my bed, and out of respect I would only sleep next to her with no touching or cuddling until after about a week.

 

Then one morning I woke up with my arm around her. I proceeded to rub her back, and legs, her feet. Then I was massaging her vagina and some finger penetration at this point. Her response was sensual or so I thought, and this went on for at least 1 hour. I also discovered she was having her period.

As I began to remove her pj bottoms she refused. And I politely stopped all sexual advances. We both got out of bed and when I tried to talk to her she looked away in shame. She even cried asked me to leave her alone. She packed up her stuff and left, I was devastated.

I never meant to hurt her. Three days later she has returned not to stay but we spent all day and early into the morning and not one word was spoken about what had happened. After a while I brought it up and she wouldn’t talk about it, then she got angry and said that she felt like I had violated her. I would have never or would never hurt her. I’m at a loss and don’t know how to deal with this. I am meeting her early morning as we have plans to complete a project. I am in love with her, please help, what should I do?

– Lane

Min Min says:
September 20, 2010 at 10:58 pm
Hi Lane,

Did you tell her that you were in love with her? If not, I suppose that you should tell her. Tell her that the love has been grown out of friendship for one year.

If you were already in love with her, you should not have let her sleep on your bed together. No matter how much you respect her, it’s hard for you to control your feeling.

You should communicate with her to know if she’s also in love with you or if she still always just regard you as a friend. Ask her if she’s also in love with you but embarrassed because you were friends for a long time. If this is the case, you can assure her it happens that friendship grows to love and this is the best thing.

If she just wants to be a friend, then you’ll have to avoid contact with her for a while until your feeling’s back to one year ago.

Ana Crusis says:
September 23, 2010 at 10:44 pm
Why is this girl staying with you? Did her parents kick her out? Did something happen that she couldn’t have kept staying where she was, or forcibly removed/evicted? If so she’s probably feeling very vulnerable and scared and maybe even displaced. She may even have feelings for you, but I DOUBT thats the way she wanted them to be acted out. Let her know you respect her and don’t think differently of her.
Tell her you love her and that you’re sorry, you didn’t want it to be like that but you just acted on your feelings and that you never wanted to hurt her, and that you will understand if she doesn’t want to do the project with you. Give her time to sort this out on her own. If she comes over again don’t even sleep in the same bed with her. If you do sleep head to foot. Give her space.

Friendship vs. Love – Which Would Win in a Contest?

Choice

Friendship vs Love

The related cases we will refer to when we address this topic are under “Bestfriend vs Lover” menu.

 

Love has three major steps:
1. Fall in love
2. Test love
3. Love lasting or love ends

If you love someone but you have never expressed your love, even if you suppose that you both love each other, then it’s not yet a love relationship; in this case, if a third person appears, you will be quite passive. This is a typical “Shy Guy” issue we will address later. Therefore, the boy in the following “Best friend vs girlfriend” case is in a “passive voice”. Here’s the story:

HayTheM had a friend, a real friend, and a love. The girl was in his school from KJ with him. As he became older he begins to love her. Now he likes her more than we can imagine, but while he was going with her to the cinema, he met his best friend, who goes with them and here’s the surprise: she loves HayThem’s friend and the friend loves her in just one minute flat. HayTheM had loved her for more than 3 years but was too shy to tell her.

Regardless of HayTheM being shy, let’s assume that the girl and him are in a love relationship when the other boy appears.

1. HayTheM talks to the girl and asks her if she loves him or the other boy. If the girl says that she loves the other boy, then HayTheM can have two different reactions:

One is relatively narrow-minded, to try his best to disallow this to happen by all means (begging her, prohibiting the connection between the girl and the friend etc.) The success rate is 50{6cfcd0bdce77e89f6643114f1e6c62d79211dd6f899a492316d2f6e8299594ce} or less. The successful part may be that the feeling between the girl and the other boy will be gone due to disconnection, however, it doesn’t mean that the feeling between the girl and HayTheM will definitely last or become deeper. The risk is that the girl may become negative, reacting against the HayTheM’s “force”.

Remember, even if she doesn’t love the other boy anymore, this doesn’t definitely mean that she will still love HayTheM, while HayTheM takes the risk in losing a friend at the same time. To be a true winner, one needs to win the other person’s heart.

The other reaction is more broadminded, to set her free. If she does love the other boy then she’s not yours; if she comes back to you, then she is yours.

Always remember the three love steps. The girl falls in love with the other boy. It’s understandable. The girl and HayTheM have been together since KJ and the new boy’s appearing is of course refreshing. Just wait out their “love steps” and see the result.

Back to “set her free”. Remember to win someone’s heart is true art. Be broadminded when she comes back. This simply means that love between the girl and the other boy has failed during the test, and all that HayTheM needs to work on might be bringing more freshness into the relationship.

2. Don’t forget your friend. Friendship vs love, which one is more important? It depends. If the lover is your true lover, of course she is more important, otherwise your friend is equally important. It happens that friends say goodbye to each other due to a boy or a girl; it happens more often that lovers say goodbye to each other with or without a reason.

Don’t forget to talk to your friend if you both fall for the same girl. Friendship also needs to be tested! Tell your friend that you love the girl. Tell your friend that you cherish your friendship as well as your love for the girl. Tell your friend that you welcome fair competition. Tell your friend that regardless of the result you will always see him as your friend. In this way, you secure a true friend and if luckier, a true lover; or you secure a true friend and luckily don’t keep a relationship with a “false” lover; or the “friend” is not your friend if he betrays you or if he refuses your fair competition or if he leaves you when he “loses”. You have nothing worthy to lose; you have everything worthy to gain.

3. It’s important not to introduce your lover to your best friend till the feeling between you and your lover has grown strong enough. Before that anything may change it, especially a best friend, in that, you talk a lot about your lover to your best friend and about your best friend to your lover, therefore, they have more chances to know each other better and you actually created the chance for them to be close to each other. I’m pretty sure when a couple’s feeling grows and becomes truly strong, it will be firm enough to resist any other temptation.

Friend or Lover” is the other choice between friendship and love. This friend and lover is one person, and he or she can be your friend whom you are in love with. So to be friend or to be lovers, this is a question. To upgrade your friend to lover you take the risk of possibly losing a friend in the future. This person can be your ex-lover. To downgrade a lover to your friend again, can you still be friends?