The related cases we will refer to when we address this topic are under “Break up” menu.
When we have to say goodbye to a lover, different personalities react differently. This girl said, if he cheated on you, go kick him. Another one said, make sure that this guy your with treats you the way you deserve to be treated. Don’t settle for less. People with such personalities are more likely to get over the pain in a short time.
I sum up this topic in great detail as follows in the hope of helping some other people whose personalities don’t allow them to easily get over the break-up.
When you have to say goodbye to a lover, when you break up with someone you still love, the situation is always like this: your mind says let him go but your heart says hold on.
There are different reasons that we have to say goodbye to a lover, but whatever reason it is, we know that it’s the end. This is something you must realize first. Remember, if hes done it once, he’ll do it again and you deserve better than that. It’s YOUR life and you only get to live it once.
What you have to do is to separate, with no contact, give yourself time to close out that part of your life. Remember, its hard to go through another door when the other door is still open. There are indeed tough situations that for whatever reason you still have to face him every day. If you believe that it’s a really hard situation for you to possibly forget him, then sometimes to move to another place may be necessary, depending on your strength. Imagine a life without him. Live a life like you have never met.
So many stories tell us the same thing that we still have feeling for ex. You have been dating and both of you have devoted to this love relationship, therefore, it’s reasonable that you still have feeling for ex. However, when your love relationship doesn’t work out, you need to understand it’s a final decision you make to give up ex. Once the decision is made, you should not go back to ex, otherwise it only repeats failure. In order to move on, you need to leave ex as far away as possible. Time will help you forget this love feeling. Because a lot of people are not willing to do so, their life with ex remains complicated, and this created problems to others who involve in later.
What you need to do is to hang out with friends, go to movies or parties, do whatever you can to get out of the house or just keep yourself busy and meet new people.
How soon is too soon? It depends on whether you believe that you have passed “timeout” and forget about your ex. To look for comfort from someone else will only hurt you more and even worse it will hurt the person you seek comfort from.
Eventually, you’ll end up meeting another guy even better than this one that will make you so much more happy. People did find true love and happiness later. You will be thankful to lose him when someone else nicer comes! On the other hand, if he would have stayed then things could have turned out a lot lot worse. This is a statistics-proved conclusion. Sometimes when people are tied to an unhappy love relationship, they will always complain that they are not as lucky as their friend who finds his / her true love, nevertheless, they aren’t aware if they don’t finish their ongoing love relationship, it’s very hard for them to find true love.
Just hang in there, everything will be okay. You just need to give it time. Time heals all wounds and if you just live life to the fullest everything will be alright.
Simply quote two song titles for you: one is from Eragon; the other one is from Bridge to Terabithia.
Keep holding on and Keep your mind wide open! Someday, you will fall in love again and love like you’ve never been hurt!
