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Jul. 24.

Two Women


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I know what I have to do, but I don’t like it. First I am one picky S.O.B. when it comes to women. I am too good to waste my time with a girl if she shows no sign of intelligence and talent… I’m careless if they are gorgeous still will I stay away from the pearl. Two women I know and are perfect to me. Both know about each other and know how I feel about them, also know how I feel about the other. I like them both, but I can’t have any of them. Both feel the same about me and know they can’t have me. I am single, but they both are not. Nothing has happened yet with any of us. One is engaged to be married so she is putting her feelings aside; the other wants a relationship but same last name. Both girls are not related to me in any way whatsoever. Same last name marriage is prohibited in my culture. The engaged one wants me to be happy with the other but doesn’t understand the “rules.” The other wants me to be happy, but left it at that. SUCKS!!! I guess I just need relationship advice. I know what I need to do, but I DON’T LIKE IT!

- Fatalism

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May. 04.

More than sex


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I’ve known this guy for 5 years. The first day we met,  we had sex. I live in California and had a best friend that lived in Louisiana which is where I met him when I visited her one summer. Ever since we met, we’ve had an infatuation with each other.

He recently had gotten incarcerated and we still keep in touch. Around the time when he got locked up, I met this other guy. He’s locked up too but somehow was able to contact me through someone’s cell phone and we’d been talking for a few months.

This new guy gets out next month which is in June and he’s been promising me the world when he gets out like massages, back rubs, getaways and a few other things. The other guy can’t promise all that. In my past relationships, I’ve always had to be the one to pay for everything. I have interest in this new guy but is it wrong for me to be with someone that can help support me more than just sexually?

The old guy thinks this new guy is selling me wolf tickets. I won’t know for sure till he gets out. The old guy is locked up all the way in Wisconsin Dodge correctional not sure for how long though. Could be from 9 to 18 months. The new guy is locked up in Solano county which is way closer to me. And he gets out June 6.

I care about both guys but Im confused to which one I want to be with. Sex with the old guy is too good I would daydream about it sometimes. lol… I don’t want my relationships to be just about sex because I am trying to settle down and am trying to find that one guy that could support me in every way physically, mentally, emotionally, monetarily to (if that’s a word  lol).

To be honest I haven’t even met the new guy face to face yet. I have about 60 letters from him I keep in a box since he first started writing me in August, September of 2010. but we’ve been exchanging pictures. Help me…!!:((((

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Nov. 16.

She still loves him


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Hello,

6 years ago, I met an amazing girl, and despite our young age, we quickly fell in love. It was a model relationship that lasted 2+ years. It ended badly, and we went almost 4 years without contact. Just recently we became reacquainted as friends and started to get closer. She just got out of a 1 year relationship with a guy whom she had a long distance relationship with. She still loves him, but desperately wants to move on from him, but he keeps using the “push away, pull back” method to keep her from completely breaking away.

We have gotten very close lately and things have been moving along amazingly. Old feelings come back, but this is different. We are different people than we were and we seem to get along even better. Though our history surely has some hand in our romance, we also are falling for each other as who we are now.

The problem is, the ex-boyfriend is still in the picture. She still loves him but wants to move on with me. She just can’t decide if she is fully ready to let go or not. She has been completely up front and honest with me about everything, and I really respect that, but things cannot keep going like this with me knowing there is another guy in the picture. I have told her that I understand she needs time to get over him, but all I ask is the commitment from her that she will work towards that and not go running back to him.

She seems absolutely crazy about me, but stays stuck in the middle. This has been going on for 2 weeks. She tells me that she knows I am the smart decision, because he has a lot of problems and so does their relationship, but she can’t seem to decide what she really wants.

I do not know whether to walk away and make her choose because I’m scared that space will push her to run back to him even easier. But I feel if I stick around, she won’t ever make the decision. I am so torn and really need help.

Sincerely,

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