4 Unique Ideas for Your First Date

A first date is not an easy business. This is the one chance you have to show your date who you are and develop the kind of chemistry that leads to a longer relationship. While the cliché “dinner and a movie” option rarely fails, it also fails to impress. Setting yourself apart from the crowd takes originality and an active spirit. Try some of these date ideas for unique, active first date experiences that will have them coming back for more.

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Get Out In The Fresh Air

While the latest Hollywood feature may be just fine to waste a few hours, it is not a suitable place to explore and build a budding relationship. Instead of staring at a screen for hours, try staring at the sunset together. Go out into the country for a hike, enjoy an evening bonfire, or some stargazing. Be sure to create a backup plan in case of inclement weather. But, make sure the contingency is just as much fun as the original plan. Being alone together with nature will not only create a romantic mood, it will give the two of you time to get to know each other. Besides, who doesn’t fancy a meal under the open sky?

 

Ride

Go Riding Together

There are loads of options for the budding daredevil. Try a driving adventure and slip into a new ride. Channel your inner James Bond by taking your date for a spin in an Aston Martin, or pay homage to Monty with a romp through the country in a tank. For those on a stricter budget, have a go on a Quad Bike for a mud bath or stroll through the hills on a Segway. Look around, you should find a suitable provider in your area. Having an adventure together will give you a spectacular foundation for your relationship. The adrenaline rush takes the pressure off you and makes sure your date won’t forget the time you spent together.

 Create A Musical Masterpiece

 

Couple Play GuitarFor the artistically inclined, making something together is a sure way to create a unique impression. While that could mean buying a canvas and paint for an evening splashing color on the wall (and each other), plenty of other creative endeavor would be just as special. A bit of shared cookery or a few hours of musical collaboration are just as memorable as a couple’s painting session. Making something creative shows your date a lot about who you are. Art is an expression of the artist. That makes it a perfect way to show them who you really are and get a glimpse inside your date’s soul.

Be Active

The key to all these ideas is action. Too many dates are passive experiences in a restaurant or a cinema. These dates don’t give couples the option of really sharing who they are, and are easily forgotten as “just another first date.” Action creates memories and opportunities for more dates in case you hit it off. Even if things don’t work out, you will have had a load of fun doing something unique and exciting.

One of the best ways to make an impression on the first date is to take your partner to the race track. You both get the opportunity of driving super cars on a professional motor racing circuit.  If you are a good driver you can show off your talent in front of your date.

Impress Your Lady Without The Embarrassment Of Low Cash

Want ideas on how to impress your new lady without the embarrassment of low cash? Do you think a first date shouldn’t cost the earth? But, you still want to make an impression?  Don’t worry guys, I have the answer…

Cinema

Taking your girl to the cinema is a classic first date! You can share an extra large  box of popcorn and a drink. Feel that electric jolt when your hands touch as you both reach into the popcorn box at the same time!

Just pick your movie wisely – taking a girly girl to see Star Wars on a first date might not go down so well. Ask her beforehand if there are any new movies out she wants to see, and if not, a comedy is always a winner.

Bowling

Bowling will give you the chance to have a great laugh together on your first date, and is super cheap too. You’ll have time to chat and get to know each other, whilst a bit of friendly competition might see sparks flying!

Tell your date to dress comfortably, order some chips to share, and enjoy the evening ahead.

Eat Out

 

Eating out doesn’t have to empty your wallet, and as long as it isn’t at the local McDonald, she’s sure to love it! A meal out is a great chance to talk. If you want to come off as suave, avoid anything that makes a slurping sound as you eat it – you may want to skip the soup of the day, that’s on the menu.

Here’s another great idea! Pick her up from her house, this will give you the chance to spend some time alone together in the car.  Order a platter to share with her. This will keep it super romantic.

Eat In

 

An alternative to eating out, is eating in with that special someone. It is just as romantic and gives you a great chance to show off your culinary skills to impress her.  But, if you are not really a budding chef?  Ordering take-away to eat while cuddling together on the comfort of your own sofa is a cheaper version of cinema and a meal out. It gives you the chance to warmly embrace each in the privacy of your home.

 

Picnic

There are few things more romantic than a picnic in a secluded quiet area on a warm summer’s day, surrounded by nature, with the fragrance of the grass beneath you. This is an inexpensive option for a first date.

A picnic saves you from the noisy atmosphere of a restaurant. And you don’t have to clean and tidy up to perfection, as you do when eating at home. Buy a big blanket to sit on, bring a large basket chugged with some finger food, cold drinks, and other refreshing cool treats.  This will   guarantee the two of you a wonderful time, which may lead to a second date.  And, if many more times together are fun-filled, it could result in a lifetime  of memories for you.

 

 

8 Things Not To Talk About On A First Date

The candlelight is flickering and the person across the table is looking at you flirtatiously…the wine’s is flowing and the conversation—totally natural.  Still, first dates can bring a flutter of nervousness. Whether you’re having the time of your life at a local café or you’re hanging out with friends in a neighborhood pub, there are some things you should never talk about when meeting someone for the first time.
Never ever, under any circumstances, bring up these things during a first date.

1. Your Exes – Don’t Talk About Your Ex. Not how great they were, nor how horrible you were treated by your ex. What you divulge about the experience with your ex, may cause your date to feel uncomfortable and insecure about being with you.  As you sit across from your date, keep the conversation light and humorous.

2. Politics – Guess what? Your opinion on presidential politics has about a 50/50 chance of falling flat. Don’t risk an awkward political debate while on a date just to further your cause. Save it for your long time friends, who value your opinions, even when they disagree with you.

3. Your Cats – Whether you’re a dude or a smoking hot lady, owning cats as a single person, sends an unflattering message  you shouldn’t have to defend. No one thinks  Fluffy sleeping habits are interesting, except you, anyway.

4. Your Past Transgressions – If you had a turbulent childhood or done things that lead to  an arrest for misdemeanor or had a divorce caused by your reckless affair, it isn’t necessary to air out the guilt you feel and burden your date.  Keep in mind, your are on a first date. Save that heavy stuff to after you get to know each other well. After a period of time, when there’s a comfortable feeling, then you talk about your past.

5. Your Bodily Functions – If it’s something a toddler, or a teenage boy would find funny, keep it to yourself. Don’t gross out your first date. If you do, there may not be another date with this person.

6. Your 5-Year Plan – You’re on this date hoping to meet that special person. To avoid scaring away someone you really like,  keep things light, really light. It’s not wise to talk about marriage plans and how many children you want on a first date. Show that funny side of you. Don’t reveal too much!

7. Your Family Baggage – So your mom has had issues with drugs and your dad, well, you haven’t seen him since he thoughtlessly abandoned you as a young child…oh wait, sorry, was that a plot for a book you are writing? Even if it’s part of your true life story, it shouldn’t be a conversation on a first date. Remember! It’s a date, not a therapy session.

8. Your Finances – No one should have to tell you, that talking about money is a turn-off for most people. It’s a classless thing to do. It goes without saying, in this world, some people make more than others. The haves and haves not. This type of conversation can lead to awkwardness and a reason to end the date early.

First date etiquette has changed. There are group dates to casual coffee meet-ups to Skype conversations across continents. But that doesn’t mean the rules of engagement has completely changed.  There are things most people still won’t say or do on a date.  A first date is too fragile and can easily be ruin with a thoughtless remark or failing to show courtesy in the treatment of someone.

3 Day Rule

How Long Should You Wait to Call Her After a First Date?

So you got past your nervousness of calling to ask a girl on a first date. And even better, she actually said yes. Now you have to ponder another awkward dating question – when do you call again? There are no hard and fast rules for the world of dating but sometimes it’d be a lot easier if there were. Everyone has different expectations. Now it’s your job to figure out what hers are. Here are some tips to help you figure out the perfect time to call again so you can be sure to get to the second date.

The Three-Day Rule

There’s a belief made popular by the movie “Swingers” that you should wait three days before calling after the first date. It’s supposed to be the perfect amount of time to send the right message – that you’re interested but not desperate. Lots of guys follow that script, or they will come up with their own personal rule about when to call. The problem with this is that in dating, what works in one situation doesn’t always work in the next. It’s a much better idea to decide when to call on a case-by-case basis, so throw the “rules” out the window.

What She’s Thinking
What is she thinking
It’s also impossible to determine what women are thinking, and once again, they all think differently. But let’s talk about some of the more common thoughts on post-first-date calls. For most women, waiting any longer than one week to call means you’re not interested in them. If you do call that late, they may become uninterested in you because you seem too busy for her or unreliable. In general it’s best to call at some point within one week of the first date.

On the other hand, how soon is too soon? A common perception is that if a guy calls the very next day, he’s pretty eager, and maybe too eager. The sooner you call the more desperate you seem. It’s usually a turn off to receive a phone call less than 24 hours after the date. Oftentimes a good length for waiting is two to three days. But how do you really know?

First Date Quality

The best way to determine when to call is by your own feelings about how the date went. If you had a great time and really liked the girl, don’t risk losing her interest by waiting too long to call her. If she felt the same way, she’ll appreciate hearing from you sooner rather than later. If the date was pretty good or just so-so, waiting an extra day is probably fine and appropriate. If the date was terrible and you don’t want to see her again, you could decide to do what most guys do and never call at all.

Whatever the case, technology is on your side. You can always send a text message the next day to let her know you had a good time. Hopefully she’ll answer with the same, and your post-first-date call won’t be quite so nerve-wracking. But please – if you really like her, don’t substitute a text message for a call – always call!

Carly Sorensen is a relationship expert and cell phone fanatic who enjoys writing when she has the spare time. She often blogs and covers anything from dating tips to the benefits of belonging to a global wireless network.

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How to Dress for the Perfect First Date

I know just how nerve wracking first dates can be.  I joined an online dating service a year ago and it took 6 first dates before I met someone I really connected with.  I learnt a lot from going on first dates and there are many ways you can help the date to run more smoothly.  You do need to give yourself every chance to relax and open yourself up to experience.  Don’t forget the other person will be nervous too.

If you both find it difficult to relax and get to know each other you may never hit it off.  I have felt in the past that with awkward dates I may have be missing out on getting to know someone who in better circumstances may have been just right for me.

Setting the Scene

There is something very cosy about meeting someone for the first time over coffee.  Coffee shops these days are welcoming havens in the busy hustle and bustle of the modern world.  I find an evening date for dinner can be a great chance to impress with your best outfit, hair and make-up but they can also be very intimidating.  In more formal restaurant surroundings it can be hard to relax at first and everyone will be a bit more nervous.

  • For the very first date I recommend meeting for coffee.  Most people will be more relaxed in the casual surroundings of a nice coffee shop.
  • You will be able to linger for as long as you want to if you do find you are getting on really well.
  • If there is no spark or connection then you can easily escape by claiming a prior engagement as soon as you want to.
  • There is no need to go through the whole process of eating three courses if you know the date isn’t going well.
  • If you are planning the date then choose a coffee shop you know well and feel comfortable in.
  • Town locations are ideal as they will offer plenty of parking and will be easy for the other person to find.
  • Try to choose a time when the coffee shop will be quieter such as mid-afternoon or early evening on a weekday.
  • Sometimes if coffee shop is too crowded it can be difficult to have a comfortable conversation and relax properly.

What to Wear

This will depend on where you are going for your first date.  If you have chosen a generic coffee shop then a smart casual outfit will be fine.  If you have chosen a more upmarket coffee shop or you are going out for an evening meal in a restaurant then a little more care should be taken.  First impressions are important when dating and the other person will not be impressed if you have not bothered to make an effort when meeting them.

  1. Coffee Shop Dates – for first coffee shop dates I like to go for Parisian Chic.  My favourite smart casual outfit for cooler days is dark blue skinny jeans, brown leather boots, floral shirt, gauzy scarf and a smart brown leather jacket.  For warmer days I opt for smart linen cropped shorts (mid-calf), vest top with a pretty blouse over the top and cute leather sandals.
  2. Evening Dates – I have several favourite evening date outfits.  If the restaurant is formal then I love my dark grey James Lakeland Amphora Dress.  This smart wraparound dress looks smart and sexy and I jazz it up with some pretty gold jewellery and killer heels.  If the restaurant is more relaxed I opt for a softer, more casual dress.  I am really in to floral prints at the moment and have a lovely green and pink soft floral dress also by James Lakeland.

Basically I try to dress in a feminine, sexy way without being too ‘in your face’.  I choose tops that show a little cleavage but make sure my bra line is well covered.  Dresses are no shorter than the knee and show calves and a little glimpse of thigh but not too much leg.  I think for the first date you need to be a little bit cautious and not overpower your natural personality with too much high-end fashion, blatantly sexual clothing or heavy make-up.

The Perfect First Date

Basically planning the perfect first date is about setting the scene.  I think it is best to find a relaxing situation in which people can really unwind and open themselves up to the experience.

First Date

I try to avoid dressing up too much and keep things simple yet sexy with some classic designs from top brands like fabulous James Lakeland dresses.