The related cases we will refer to when we address this topic are under “Forget Love” menu.

If you are heartbroken, please remember this first: just like giving birth to a child, the pain will pass and the new baby will eventually be born. Being heartbroken is never eternal.

Before you forget your pain, feel free to recall it, feel it. Feel free to listen to the music that brings back haunting memories and feel free to cry. This helps you get through the worst of the pain and moves you along the path toward healing. Heart break is like losing a loved one to death, there you will go through a process similar to grief.

Then please be good to yourself: a spa, a massage, a movie, a concert just to cheer yourself up. Listen to gorgeous music, take a walk in a beautiful garden or a unique hillside and eat healthy foods.

Please remember what a great rabbi once said: you can learn something from everything, meaning there’s no experience including the worst one that can’t teach you something worthwhile.

Please learn not to depend upon another person for your happiness. It’s important to find your own true self and path in your life. Please do not rely on a love relationship to resolve your problems, to seemingly fulfill your “empty” life. You had better be reasonably happy, content and fulfilled on your own and then seek out a love relationship that can add to your life. Being dependent on another for your happiness is a good set-up for heart break.

Please remember there are other fishes in the sea. We have often marveled at how the next love has proven to be so much better than the one before, simply because we do learn at least something from each of these unsuccessful love relationships.

There’s nothing like good, warm, understanding, loving and lovable friends after a heartbreak, but please do not talk one friend’s ear off about your situation. And do be grateful for the kindness shown to you by others who reach out to you at this time. Once you feel a bit better it would be very lovely and thoughtful of you to send a thank you note, little gift, flowers or whatever to any friend who was especially comforting, understanding and helpful to you during the period of difficulty.