What’s the difference between being in love and love?

Building a love relationship is like building a bridge over a river. Being in love is like crossing the river in winter. The river freezes over and we can walk across. It’s effortless and exciting.

Anyway, summer comes, the ice turns to liquid and we’ve lost our natural bridge. The ice bridge relies on the weather, and we realizes that we need a real bridge that endures through every season in order to cross the river and reach the other side or just to keep the excitement of crossing the river.

Being in love is romantic, but life is realistic; crossing the river over the ice bridge is thrilling, but the weather changes, and there’s nothing that the effortlessness can maintain.

We can make use of the ice while we build a more durable bridge of wood, brick or steel. Likewise, while we’re being in love we can build a lasting love relationship based on respect, trust, and friendship. When we’re being in love we want to spend all our time with the other person, and it’s a perfect opportunity to get to know each other better, so we can know how best to love the other one.

Being in love provides you with a gifted opportunity and strong desire and energy to preserve the love. If the bridge you build is durable, you keep your love being in love; if the love relationship lacks respect, trust or friendship, then you will eventually end up falling out of love.

We thought that we were deeply in love, but some day when we looked back we suddenly found it so vague; the deepest love must grow with time.