Tag Archives: Love Respect

May. 21.

Being in Love

What’s the difference between being in love and love?

Building a love relationship is like building a bridge over a river. Being in love is like crossing the river in winter. The river freezes over and we can walk across. It’s effortless and exciting.

Anyway, summer comes, the ice turns to liquid and we’ve lost our natural bridge. The ice bridge relies on the weather, and we realizes that we need a real bridge that endures through every season in order to cross the river and reach the other side or just to keep the excitement of crossing the river.

Being in love is romantic, but life is realistic; crossing the river over the ice bridge is thrilling, but the weather changes, and there’s nothing that the effortlessness can maintain.

We can make use of the ice while we build a more durable bridge of wood, brick or steel. Likewise, while we’re being in love we can build a lasting love relationship based on respect, trust, and friendship. When we’re being in love we want to spend all our time with the other person, and it’s a perfect opportunity to get to know each other better, so we can know how best to love the other one.

Being in love provides you with a gifted opportunity and strong desire and energy to preserve the love. If the bridge you build is durable, you keep your love being in love; if the love relationship lacks respect, trust or friendship, then you will eventually end up falling out of love.

We thought that we were deeply in love, but some day when we looked back we suddenly found it so vague; the deepest love must grow with time.

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Apr. 26.

Love with no result

To avoid 8 kinds of love with no result, you will live a life with less hurt. Do not create self-hurt and do not let these love with no result overshadow your view of a much better and healthier life near at hand.

8 kinds of love with no result are as follows:

1. When you care about him but he’s just not that into u

Love is supposed to be mutual, and when he’s just not that into u, to avoid self-hurt, you had better give him up as soon as possible before your love is getting deep.

Your love is actually never satisfied and the harm is not less than drugs’. You lose yourself in this unbalanced relationship and you will feel you are fooled and painful.

Vice versa, do not hurt someone you are not that into.

2. When you only love his potential

You don’t really love him as is and you just love the one he might become in the future, then he is just someone you want to shape but not your love.

If you always hope to change him to satisfy you, then it’s rather gamble than love.

Vice versa, if he always wants to change you, then he doesn’t love you; leave him as soon as possible before you get hurt.

3. When you want to help him

You have pity on him and you feel obliged to cheer him up; you are afraid if you leave him he will be hurt.

He’s fragile, dependent and unloved. You have pity on him and then you try to love him. He will be grateful to you.

It’s alms giving that lacks respect for love.

Vice versa, if you are in need of help, please be thankful to him as a friend only, no further.

4. When you admire him as an idol

This kind of love is unequal. If you tend to love someone you admire, you usually lack self-confidence.

Vice versa, if someone admires you, just keep the friendship as is and do not “upgrade” it to love.

5. When you are just attracted to his appearance

It’s rather infatuation than love. Vice versa, if you are a beautiful woman, don’t be easily carried away by the number of wooers handy, otherwise, you may contrarily be suffered. A beautiful woman is a target of aggressive men who are addicted to competition, not love.

6. When you are together in an unusual occasion for a short period of time

This kind of feeling is not long lasting, since you don’t really get to know each other, especially when the occasion is changed later on.

7. When you just want to be opposite

When you are told to find someone rich, you intend to find someone poor……you just want to prove something, then you don’t truly love whom you choose.

When your parents dislike boyfriend, you insist on; you just want to be opposite.

8. When he is not free

Being free means he can be with you freely, unmarried, unengaged, not dating someone else, not in a love relationship, single and only be with you.

If the man you are being in love with promises you that he will leave the other woman very soon; or he says that he doesn’t love that woman and he loves you; or the other woman accepts your existence but they don’t plan on break up and he wants to be with you for a while; or he just broke up, but they might be together again……then he’s not free.

If you date a man who is not free, regardless of excuses, result is the same, that is, your heart will be broken, and the truth is that you only receive the portion of what the other woman left over.

Choice is at yours; responsibility is at yours. Love with no result is just a gamble with little chances to win and your happiness is the wager.

8 kinds of love with no result summarize 8 foremost preconditions to ensure a successful love journey with apparently more chances.

When love is mutual, balanced, equal, undivided, whole, unconditional with respect, it will pave an enchanting and healthy boulevard for you.

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Nov. 10.

Distance of Beauty

If the answer of the question “why marriage is love’s tomb” is the vanishing of the feeling to respect love, then how are we going to avoid it?

If a romantic love is high quality, then it will surely turn to a long lasting bond of the couple and the main quality of the feeling is the mutual understanding, mutual trust and the privity of their way of thinking. The couple will have a sense of security and that of sharing the happiness and sadness together. They will feel that they are tied to each other and will never part in their life and that they will face all difficulties together. They will deeply miss each other whenever one is away from the other one.

How are we going to protect this great love? The answer is to keep a right distance, intimate while distant. After marriage, two persons are still individual persons, and need to be respected as individual persons, respecting his personality, his freedom; two persons are still two separate individuals and are not able to become one. Unfortunately, people often get it wrong and take for granted that the couple will be one and that both should keep pace with each other and then the conflicts are never ending.

In fact, family is supposed to become an intimate space for an individual to freely grow and provide the room for love to continue growing. The love living in such a mutually respectful and trustful ambiance will then not be distorted.

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