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May. 25.

Narcissist vs Guardian

Most people are in some way narcissistic or have the trait, but the “narcissists” we are discussing here are those whose narcissism has been enlarged to the extreme extent that it severely affects people around them.

There’s a theory out there that believes that most well-known successful people are narcissists, while I have a different view. In that theory, all those famous people who have different temperaments, defined in Dr. Keirsey’s relationship book “Please understand me 2″, are labeled as narcissists, including Bill Gates and the like, which I can’t seem to agree. I may not have the right to say so, in that, I had no chance living in a life close to them to proof it. However, in that theory, it mentions four types of people: narcissist, sensualist, utilitarian and marketing, and they are exactly what Dr. Keirsey describes as guardian, idealist, rational and artisan, in this case, I would say, Bill Gates is not a narcissist, at most, he is a narcissistic rational.

The theory also classifies narcissist as productive and destructive narcissist, therefore, the tough-minded guardian is probably the destructive narcissist we are talking about. They are the most successful type of people outside the United States, in that, more people tend to follow them in a non-democratic society.

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Please understand me II
Aug. 30.

Please understand me

Do you believe that a book can change one’s life? I do and it does. It’s called “Please understand me” and it has two versions. The version I read is the 2nd version. Is this change good? I can’t tell. I agree when you gain something you usually lose something else and the same, when you lose something you gain something else. It all depends on the importance of what you gain or on how you view what you gain. Do you appreciate and cherish it? I was in my deep depression finishing a precious friendship with a like-minded male friend. It was a kind of perfect friendship journey once in one’s life. It’s finished because we were too young or because I didn’t read this relationship book.

Sometimes when you are sad about finishing a love relationship with your ex-lover or the like, it’s not because you are still being in love with him/her, rather, because you don’t understand how and why this ends. You always think you can learn from your previous failures when you know the reasons and then you can move on to the next one, however, it doesn’t definitely work the next time, simply because the next love relationship is different, the next person is different. You don’t understand who he/she is from your point of view.

Please understand me II

The good point for me to know these differences revealed by “Please understand me II” is that I understand others better although I’m not changed and neither is the other person; It helps get along with others better.

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